I have a friend, we'll call her Amy. Amy moved here a while back and I thought she was nice. She was kinda pretty too. So I decided to hang out with her.
Eventually, Amy began flirting with EVERYONE! Even my boyfriend, and he loved it. I told her how I felt and she said she always flirts, its just her personality.
I never thought Amy was really THAT pretty, but I guess I was wrong. She made me feel horrible about myself. But soon, I realized that it built confidence in me and made me WANT to look pretty for once.
Amy and I have done everything together and I consider her a best friend, but this flirting has got to stop, and it wont. She is at times a BAD influence, but I love her.
Should I let her go or keep her safe?
2007-03-17 06:58:29 · 11 answers · asked by blasting ♥ music 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me explain something to you: If your "best friend" makes you feel awful about yourself and won't stop nagging at you or your boyfriend, you need to let her go. Best Friends are supposed to pick you Up when you're down, Best Friends are supposed to be honest with you, Best Friends are supposed to stop whatever is giving you discomfort, and many more positive things as a Best Friend. It seems like this girl isn't doing any of them, so I think that you should let her go because she's not helping you and you don't need this type of person around you or your boyfriend; when she hit on Your Boyfriend, that should have been a hit too close to home - Let Her Go.
2007-03-17 07:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try again telling her how she makes you feel. If that doesn't work you should "let her go" because friends don't flirt with other friends boyfriends and make them feel bad about themselves. And if she's a bad influence its also not a good idea cuz the older u get its gunna worse and turn into something bad, ex; Drugs.. Not saying it will but it could. You have to think to ur self. Is she a good friend or a bad one? You have to make the choice.. You can't count on people to tell u everything.. Ur Choice but in my opion the way u DESCRIBED her she doesn't seem as such a good friend.
Best Of Luck <3
2007-03-17 07:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Alexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,look! i don't know how u put up with "amy" for so long but the first time she would've flirted with my boyfriend- that would've been her last! u don't let anyone make u feel horrible about urself. i'm telling u this from experience, i had a best friend for 10 yrs, she never dared to flirt wit my boyfriends or any other guy i was ever interested in but she often put me down, made me feel like i wasn't all that i am and critized everything i ever did and said. and i don't speak to her til this day because she never took the time out to see the wrong in what she says or does, and it's not only with me. and trust me- we were like sisters. i was even going to make her my son's godmother.
so in my opinion- take heed to what i just typed in this answer and think to ur self if she is the type of person u can live the rest of ur life with knowing u might not be able to trust her fully even though u have love for her. sometimes ur friends are ur enemies - it just takes time for u to realize it... good luck.
2007-03-17 07:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep her as long as it's just flirting and you have no suspicion of any other foul play, you just have to give her a taste of her own medicine, flirt with a guy she's interested in, keep it simple (especially since you have a boyfriend) but enough where she'll notice, most likely it'll get her mad that she's not in the spot light, if she mentions it tell her that that's how you feel when she flirts with your boyfriend but it's 10x worse ... hopefully she'll realize and be aware of how she acts .... if not then just talk to her ... she might not even realize she's flirting explain to her specifically what she does that bothers you the most, it should make her more aware of it ... if it doesn't stop then maybe you should let her go .... give it a chance first
2007-03-17 07:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Like Nothing Else 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she still flirting with your boyfriend/anyone you have feelings for?
If so, you may want to talk to her again. Tell her about how it hurts you, and if she is really your best friend, she would hate that she hurts you. Amy would make an effort if your friendship is really worth it to her - and if it isn't, let her go.
2007-03-17 07:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Does the flirting interfere with your own relationships? If she keeps trying to steal your man, then you might have to let her go.
Also: how close are you to her? Because if you really do care about her, you could confront her and ask her to minimize her flirtatiousness, before someone gets hurt, or before it gets messy.
Try to picture life without her. Would it be terrible? Or is she someone you could easily replace?
the answers to these questions should help you make your decision... let us know how it turns out :)
hope i was of help
2007-03-17 07:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by paolo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
If you really like her as a friend you will ignore her flaws. If you feel she is flirting with your boyfriend speak to her openly and honestly and tell her it bothers you and you would like her to stop. it sounds to me that she is craving attention, maybe she will meet someone nice to show her alot of attention she obviously needs.Hope this helps.
Ozarkfunlover
2007-03-17 07:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by ozarkfunlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you Amy and the boyfriend should have a threesome that relieves tention in a relationship. Watching her take it in the butt from your boyfriend will cure all the tensions. Good luck
2007-03-17 07:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She doesn't sound like a best friend. Stop worrying about her and make your own life.
2007-03-17 07:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hurt? WHY? When there are people out there that won't upset you...you sound jealous....that is a no no....love yourself or your boyfriend won't!
2007-03-17 07:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋