Will you counsel me???

Question

I am majorly depressed with frequent mood swings. I worked at a jail and was accused of doing somthing I honestly did'nt do and was fired from my job. Three days later, my wife of 10 years and mother of my 4 year old daughter kicked me out of my home. I did not have $$ for a lawyer so therefore she got everything, Brand new 1000 dollar computer, 32 inch new tv, plus vehicle, all the furniture. All I got was my clothes and my keyboard. I moved in with my mama who has been sick for years and she dies on me six months after my wife left me.Now two years later I suffer from anxiety and depression plus a back problem that keeps me from working a full time job. but have no insurance to get my back treated and have been taking Ultram for pain for 2 years which I get from a diccount doctor who bases fee on my income. Now i am hooked on the medicine and can't function without it. Plus I am dateing a lady who has a very controlling mther and it seems her mom runs every guy she dates off. Help!!

Answer 1

sounds like you need to see a good psychiatrist.

Answer 2

In all fairness to the lady you are dating and to yourself, the last thing you should be doing right now anyways is dating!
You life has spun out of control and you need to focus on you and only you right now and how to fix what has gone wrong. There must be some state funded medicaid program where you live. Apply for that so that you can get the medical attention you need. Alanon is free- get involved. The best way to get rid of an addiction is to replace it with another. Instead of taking drugs try exercising. Exercise releases endorphines which can be better than the drugs themselves. Work through the pain. If you positively can't do that, take up a hobby like painting or learn sign language. Just do something to keep your mind off those cravings. Forget about what happened with your wife. It's gone, you can never get that back. What you can do is make the best you that you could possibly have. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I get the impression you have spent lots of time with your head in the sand. Not one of the events you describe should have been a surprise to you however, this is what you seem to be conveying.
The loss of your job, your livelihood, seems to be the starting point of your depression. You are not alone, it happens to most people that are terminated and a time for grieving is expected and necessary. Events that followed have added to this depression and it seems it has gone untreated and is now running your life.
You should have seen your marriage break up coming, most couples don't break up in three days. I am sorry for the loss of your Mother but this, like your marriage, did not happen in a day. Depression can cause physical problems in some people if it goes untreated. If you didn't fall off a ladder, have a car accident or inherit your back problem then you might consider it is another manifestation of your depression.
Your "discount" doctor seems to be a pill pushing quack quack quack. His sliding scale patient ability to pay is commendable but remember, someone finishes last in the class and still gets to be a doctor. He loads you up with pills instead of treating all of you. OR, his exam table side manner sucks. No doctor in his right mind would allow a patient with a back problem to go untreated and he is maybe remiss only in conveying to you that you need to see a counselor to address your life events. Call his office and inquire about a referral to a psychologist/psychiatrist that also works on the sliding scale.
After a few visits you may, like some people do, feel as though some of the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders and amazingly, your back feels better.
As to the mom from h e double hockey sticks...relax and let your relationship with her daughter happen or not. Right now, working on you seems to be the priority.

Answer 4

First things first, get rid of problems that you CAN control like your girlfriend and her mother! Secondly, you need to check into a city shelter/rehab for your drug problem. Most city shelters that offer drug rehab programs help you out with such things as medical and psychological problems even if you don't have any money. Since you have no job you are qualified for this type of help but it's neccessary to leave your girlfriends home. Also, you may be able to collect unemployment benefits since you were fired from your job and did not walk off or quit. Your old employer may refuse to pay you benefits but you can have a hearing over the telephone and you may qualify. Just because you were fired from your job doesn't mean that you were at fault, it has to be proven.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like it's time for you to start fighting for your own happiness. You get about a hundred years on this planet to figure out how to make yourself happy. If you let everyone walk all over you, you're not going to ever find that. Start by talking to your doc about your addiction. Tell him you need to get off the meds and deal with the actual cure. Your back is probably not the reason you are taking the medication anymore anyway. They can help you get off of them. (My friend had great success with a new medication to get him off pain meds- it's a cure for the symptoms of withdrawal, sort of) Then deal with the depression. Get more sunshine, and eat healthier. It really does make a difference. Find a job that has varied amounts of sitting and standing- you shouldn't do either all day. Excercise to strengthen your back. Write your ex-wife a letter and tell her she was unfair, but don't expect anything out of it. Don't let your gf's mom bug you. She has nothing to do with your relationship. She probably just wants more for her daughter than you, so be more. Become more. Stand up and do something. Good luck. This is all easier said than done.

Answer 6

I am not a counselor and you really would be much better off talking to a doctor about your depression and how you are feeling about things as they can help you with all of this and there also may be medication you can take as well. Are you bi-polar or something like that if i may ask? You also may need counseling and therapy as well. I do not feel that anyone here on yahoo answers can counsel you as well as someone can in person. Good luck to you and i hope things start to get better for you soon. Here comes lots of hugs your way today and you also may be able to get disability benefits from SSI and SSD since you are disabled and cannot work. You will also need a good Phsicyatrist as well to help evaluate you and your mental and physical health. Once you have this in writing and documentation you will be able to get much more help for this.
i myself am not a licensed counselor or therapist so i cannot help your professionally all i can do is give you my opinion on things and send you to the right places for help and guidance that you need so desperatley. I am glad to see that you are reaching out for help though as this is a good and positive step for you to start things with. Seek the help you need and things will get better for you bud.

Answer 7

You really can't focus on all of your problems until you are well. Go to to one of the county hospitals for help. Then, remember that you will always be a father to your daughter, so make certain you have rights to see her. Also, the TV, computer, furniture..... all material things that can be replaced. Last, you are dating... so you aren't a troll. To heck with her mother... just focus on the new lady in your life. Look for the lighht at the end of the tunnel... there's one there.

Answer 8

First of all..go to Family Services in your area. Apply for all the assistance. If you get it fine if not fine too. Then go to Legal Aid and get a Lawyer to get you SSI or SSDI. They will put you through testing to see if you are able to work or not. If not they will give you money monthly. If they think you can work then you can so then go get a job. You also need to go to a Therapist and get therapy and he will send you to a doctor for medication for depression and the anxiety..THEN you will be fine...and leave this girlfriend.......you have enough problems..you do not need that! Get yourself in shape and on the raod to a normal life and then worry about being in a relationship! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

ONE DAY AT A TIME BROTHER!

First of all dump that girl with the freaky mom. You don't need anymore baggage. Second get your self some HELP! lay off the meds, that's a bad investment. VERY BAD. Your money is needed else where, with the money you spent on meds you could have fixed the back problem by now. Get your self some serious help. AND TAKE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Answer 10

Listen to me, first you must get to a good Psychiatrist to evaluate your mental state. You can make any decisions until you do that. The mood swings can be caused by the drug addiction, or it could be something else.
The Doctor will help you determine the best course of treatment. Think about yourself right now and your health.
Once your moods are stabilized you will be able to rationally make decisions about the rest of the things that have hit you all at once.

Answer 11

aww honey! sounds though you have a real tought time! i live in the uk so over here! if we are ill we get medicine for free and doctors are free! and we would def be able to get a lwayer as we get something called legal aid where our goverment would pay the fees on our behalf! sounds like you have had a hard time and it my all be because of something you have not done!

i would def not be dating someone that may lead to giving you a harder time then need be! i have to ask what was it you were accused of that you never done? you need to kick this habit of depression! get off the drugs, you knoe yourself you need to! and try a job were you work from home? you ever heard of networking??? try sa jb like that it could give you the oppertuniy you need to get yourself back on your feet!