have you ever noticed and want to change this?

Question

lately i have noticed that people are just not very nice anymore no one holds doors or lets you out in traffic or even want to let you cross the cross walk. you go to the store and they are nasty like last night we bought some oil and got to the counter and noticed it had a leak in it all over my husbands coat i told the cashier and she just picked it up anyway then complained the whole 5 min about how her hands stunk now. went to mcdonalds and the girl there didnt want to be there she just stood around it took 10 min to get all of our food. i dont know it just seems like no one cares about others anymore. does anyone else feel this way too? even familys are like that when i was young every sunday we had lunch at the grandparents house with the whole family my kids dont even know there cousins its just very sad i think

i am very nice to people also i try to do something good everyday but sometimes when i want to help i am afraid to and thats sad like the other night i was behind a car with no tail lights this was not only dangerous but he could get a ticket i wanted to and almost did follow him and tell him then i thought i better not he may take it the wrong way or something and that is not rite we shouldnt be that scared of doing good things

Answer 1

I completely agree with you! I am a bank teller, and you would not believe how rude adults and children are just in the bank. I have even had some guy call me a b*tch just because I couldn't cash his friends check. I try to make sure and do at least one nice thing for someone every day. I just figure you cant change people but I hope that when I go out of my way to help others (even just letting a car in) that they might remember that, and do a good deed for someone else.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. For some reason, it seems like there are a lot of people out there that don't care about others. A lot of people seem to be out for themselves and don't have the heart anymore to be nice. I think it's because there are a lot of miserable people in the world. I agree with you about the families too. My family is so dysfunctional and I can't wait for the day that I move to another state to get away from all the misery and drama.

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

Answer 3

Society and family values have changed, we are more worried about individual needs, than about others. You are right, not everybody is nice.

On the other hand there are still some nice people around and it is refreshing when finding them.

But being nice and polite is sometimes even seeing as stupid, if you say "good morning" or some type of salute, some people look at you weird, like if you had done something wrong.

I try to be nice and polite, and to thank others that are being nice and polite, and to teach the younger ones I can influence, that is the best you can do.

Answer 4

It's not all families. My daughters are very close with most of their cousins (they have 1 that lives several states away). We all get together and they have the benefit of growing up surrounded by loving aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents.

Customer Service has taken a steady decline over the last few years, I do agree with that one and it does seem like nobody's teaching their kids manners anymore. Even grown ups don't display manners. People stand in doorways and block paths to talk to one another. I waited for several minutes at the grocery the other day because a group of people were standing in the middle of the aisle talking. I eventually wound up backing out of that aisle and walking down the next to get to the other end.

The cure to this is to teach our own children better.

Answer 5

I agree on every point. It' s really sad. When I was a teen I worked in Dunkin Donuts and Sears and different places like that. The customer was king and we'd jump through hoops for them. Now they treat you like dirt. The places can't fire them, because spoiled teenagers get everything from their parents and don't have to work. I agree about the cousins too. Everyone is playing soccer every Sunday and kids don't know their own relatives. It's a sad state of affairs.

Answer 6

I know too much about my relatives but the rest I agree with. Common courtesy and a positive attitude seems entirely gone. It seems fashionable to tear into people for no reason. And a caring attitude seems like the simplest most basic requirement to working a job or just being a person.

Answer 7

I think there are more poor people than ever in this country. Also, everywhere you look you see rich people, tv, friends, etc. some people are just lucky and get rich, others work in fast food because their life didn't turn out so great.

So much of life is about who your parents are, and are you "in the right place at the right time" crap like that can make normal people crazy and mean, and real upset...

Answer 8

I have noticed that too. I was coming into traffic on a very busy day and nobody would let me in. I finally saw a spot that had just enough room & I went into it. The guy behind me was having some kind of fit because he was beeping the horn, making rude hand gestures. I got away from him.

Answer 9

I'm going to disagree...this morning two different people held the door for me...and i forgot something at the grocery store and a customer not a worker ran after me....and a week ago I was walking by some young teens and one of them was cussing and the other one said,"don't cuss in front of her" (meaning me)..i think sometimes it's easier to see the negative then the positive....

Answer 10

I agree with you, I always hold the door open for people, smile at people and offer to help if I see someone that needs assistance. I am constantly having doors slammed in my face, I've been elbowed and pushed trying to get in line for a bus in downtown Seattle. I get coffee every morning at the same nationwide coffee chain and the girl there always has a scowl on her face and is really short with me and rude and I always tip her! I don't get it all, particularly at a job, if you have a bad attitude you are making things much harder for yourself, if you approach something with a good attitude - most people reciprocate that - its contagious.