I'm not sure if I've done something wrong, something to offend her, or...I just don't know. She says she's been busy, has lots on her mind, but never makes an effort to be friends again. Not the first time this has happened to me. Basically, I've had two girlfriends 'break-up' with me with no explanations. Both relationships were not one-sided (that is, me doing all the talking/griping/listening; both had told me I was a great friend. I let them know I cherished their friendship. I do not think I suffocated them, or took advantage of them, or abused them in any way.) Do any other women out there miss seeing an old friend who purposely avoids you?
2007-03-17 06:48:22 · 9 answers · asked by sidnee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes, this has happened to me, and i've done it to people.
i was initially hurt, but a friend who wanted to spend more time with her husband and his friends, so i had no choice to accept it and move on with my life. i found some new friends.
when i go through a bout of depression, i close myself off to nearly everyone in my life. i avoid peoples calls and go out of my way not to run into anyone. it's a horrible way to deal with stress and depression, and i still can't figure out why i do it... sometimes i'm convinced that i don't want to bother people with my problems and i just don't feel like talking to anyone. but, maybe that's not the case, because i spend a lot of time communicating here with people on yahoo.
cheer up. they may be going through something difficult in life. the only thing you can do is let them know you're worried, and that you're sorry if you did anything to offend them. if you don't get a response, it's best to move on... they'll reach out when they're ready, and then you'll get to decide if you want to continue the friendship.
2007-03-17 07:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and I talked about this subject not too long ago, she and I were both discussing how it seems that the friends we have picked in life seem to be the kind that we always have to call first, or keep up with.
I am not sure why this is, but it honestly bugs me, and has caused me to lose friends in the same way, because I know I can be too sentimental and stubborn, and if you don't keep in contact with me I take it to heart and end up not calling, thinking I must of offended them in some way, and end up losing the friendship. But to me I don't dwell on it anymore like I use to when I was younger, I just think apparently they learned all they needed from me, and moved on. Even though it may hurt me, I have no choice in the matter any longer, so there is nothing I can do. You just have to move forward, even though it is hard sometimes.
2007-03-17 07:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lost touch with a lot of old friends and I hate it too but people grow and change and things aren't the same anymore. I have some friends that I only talk to a couple times a month but it is like we never missed a beat. We're just so busy with our own things and since we aren't in the same town it makes it hard to stay as close. I know how you feel and it's horrible that the people we thought were our good friends aren't anymore but it's just a fact of life.
2007-03-17 06:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kel16IU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me too. we used to be best friends and out of nowhere she stops calling me. and when i'd call she'd say i'll call you back but never did. the same questions you ask yourself are the same things i ask too..... well i have one for you? are you better looking than they are? or do you have a better job? or better car? maybe they are jealous of you and can't take it... it probably has nothing to do with you not being a good friend. i'm asking because i've always been told how pretty i am and she wasn't... that's where the tension started building up she would try to bring me down with bad comments and also a guy that she wanted to be with ended up liking me.. i mean, that's what i think that made her leave our friendship her envy.. maybe that's your case too. i was also a good friend by the way. but oh well!! good luck!
2007-03-17 06:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by gaby5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that happened to me too. It's sad, really. I never found out why. Maybe you can try talking to her face to face. Good luck to you.
2007-03-17 06:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kewpie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you putting you don't think you were suffocating them I think you were.....you are sweet and they didn't want to hurt you or you did something they didn't like ..like talked too much, to needy maybe?
2007-03-17 06:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is happening to me to i try to talk nd email her but she never replies or talks to me i didnt do anything im not sure y. i do think that women nd girls are missing seeing an old friend.
2007-03-17 07:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by P0lly* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happened to me. She was scr##ing my man.
2007-03-17 06:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but tha's just a part of life...
2007-03-17 06:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋