How do I trust people again, I've been let down so many times?

Question

I've been let down by many people in my life. I just don't think I can trust anyone anymore. I only feel like I can trust my immediate family and that is it. I'm honest with people and then they will lie to me. I do what I say I will, but they never seem to do their part. I don't feel like I have any friends that I can trust because the second something happens, they aren't there. It has always been like this. I've found new friends but I could never trust them either. I've been in relationships with guys that ended up breaking my trust. Whenever I let someone in, they let me down. I make the mistake of getting emotionally attached and then get left torn and in the cold. I want to trust people, but how can I when I am let down so much?

Answer 1

Yes. You and I might be long lost sisters! Anyway, you (and I) are sensitive and require much in a friend. We are particular and demand loyalty and support to call someone a friend.

Make your mind up whether you want to lower your expectations to have more friends. Or whether you need to appreciate your family (love is a strong bond) and hope for one good friend to pop up somewhere that you can respect and trust.

As a general rule though, it's not wise to share all the feelings and secrets of your heart. Tougher people will always be around you and won't see what the fuss is all about! You know the ones who always declare "I don't care what Anyone Else Thinks Of Me!" ? Look out for those. They usually mean business. Good luck! @8-)

I forgot the most important thing and it's so easy to remember! You CANNOT Change Other People!! Peace.
@8-) (Two smileys for the price of one)

Answer 2

Trust is a walk. I would only have friends that are trustworthy, and are able to keep their word. Watch the friends you choose, and choose friends who are sincere. After awhile, when your friends keep their words enough times, it will be easier to trust again. Just watch out, not everyone in this world is trustworthy, so people that are in it for the long haul will have to develop your trust. Not everyone has your best interest at heart.

Answer 3

Man, i thought this is happening only with me, i.e. ppl only walk past me without any reason.

All my life, i have been backstabbed by ppl, whenever i have trusted them. Except my parents, i don't think anybody has loved me ever. Ppl has always hurted me, though i have helped and supported them financially and emotionally, going out of my way.

But, life's like that. We got to move on, as we learn from every mistakes.

Thanks for asking this question, because of u i got to see so many lovely replies. Also, got to know someone like me.

Answer 4

To stop trusting my dear, is to stop living, itself.
There are people who are not trustworthy at all. Some people are and are not trustworthy,
a rare percentage Is trustworthy.
It is up to you to place your experience in an open file - but have another file open for new experiences that may prove NOT as in the past, so disappointing that You'll CLOSE yourself up, to you, other worthwhile people and ESPECIALLY, Life!
Hope to have helped!
Grace.

Answer 5

Make people earn your trust,day by day.
A sad truth in life we all must learn is;People will
let you down.There's no way around it.
Still,THERE ARE some people of good character
that are considered trustworthy by many.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I Ve Been Let Down

Answer 7

I've helped so many people--and many of them have turned around and backstabbed, lied on me--and those people are no longer in my life. There are some people who only respect abusive and hurtful people--while those of us are nice and treat them with respect get walked on. But I will say this--I've learned now that people are only in our lives for a Reason, Season, or LIfetime. Our mom and dad are therre for a Lifetime--but most other people are only there for a short while to teach us something valuable and move on. Dont cling to relationships that are dying. When it dies, just move on with life.

Do not let those deceptive people stop you from living life and being happy. Maybe you can start to to be more careful about who you let into your life. If you start getting a gut instinct that someone is fishy--then follow that instinct and keep your distance. Dont keep hanging around the same type of people--dont keep making the same mistakes. Alot of that has to do with YOU making the right choices. We "allow" ourselves to be abused--remember that.

But there are many good hearted people out there who will add joy to your life and appreacite you. Dont get jaded, because you'll be just like them if you do.

As for men--most men are dangerious and will use and abuse you as much as they can--even the so called "nice" ones. You cant just go hopping in and out of bed just because you've been on 5 dates with someone. Only trust a man who has been there for you in hard times, AND who offers to marry you. If he doesnt ask to marry you--then they're just looking for a free ride of sex and fun by "living together" which is a just a ploy for men to get free sex and half their rent paid.

Everyone has been backstabbed and betrayed by so called friends. There was a woman at my job who I was sooo nice to--and she repaid me by secrertly trying to get me fired by telling my boss certian things. That hurt me--but I just found out yesterday that she is about to be fired by her boss and she doesnt even know it. Turns out her boss is about to backstab her--and you know what--they say what goes around comes around. So, they eventually get it back!

And dont trust people until you see them for who they are.

Answer 8

The Bible says we have to forgive. There is always going to be a chance that someone will hurt you. Maybe you need to raise your standards when you choose your friends. If God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it. God bless...