I'm 21, been having sex since I was 19, but I never seem to get an orgasm through normal sex.......is that normal? I can only have an orgasm from foreplay or masturbation.
My bf is starting to get annoyed about it cos he thinks I'm not enjoying it, but I am - I just can't seem to have an orgasm. What can I do to make it better so that I can orgasm through normal sex?
2007-03-17 06:40:45 · 34 answers · asked by ellie_boo21 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
At least 70% of women don't reach an orgasm through intercourse alone, so you are completely normal.
2007-03-17 06:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't get frustrated, you just need to find the spot. Every women has the spot, that when manipulated the right way, produced the orgasm you so despirate seek.
Do some research first online and get an idea of what might feel good. Take a Saturday and find the spot. Spend all day in bed naked and try everything you can imagine. Buy some toys and let him explore ALL of you until you find the spot. The spot my be where you least expect it or in an area you have not fooled around with yet. According to MSNBC a few weeks ago, that area has been deemed untaboo. Before you get turned off by the though, give it a try, then make your judgement. Just be opened minded and be safe about it. Handled right, I have never known a women to not enjoy pleasure there. The uptight ones just need to learn to relax. Hope you find the spot. It's a new world once you get there :)
2007-03-20 07:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell yourself you cannot orgasm through penetration then you will subconsciously prevent yourself having one.
You say you only orgasm through masturbation or foreplay,this is very common but as again if you put too much emphasis on "oh my god i just know he's gonna think hes not doing it for me coz i cant orgasm" you will automatically prevent yourself.
You need to relax and enjoy sex for what it is and not how you get an orgasm.
I was like this with my x,i knew i didnt love him and knew i didnt want him,this always prevented me having an orgasm BUT i knew the cause to me not having an orgasm.
2007-03-17 12:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are normal most woman can not and never do have an orgasm during normal sex act. sometimes a man just don't hit the G spot. but if you get him to stimulate your clit while making love then you can have an orgasm with him. man there is nothing like orgasming at the same time.. but i feel as you age you will learn how to work that part of your body to accomodate you and your needs, hang in htere and keep working on it..
2007-03-17 06:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by raven1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, thats completely normal. Sometimes women just don't have the big O with penetration. Maybe what you could try is have him tease you until you're just about to climax...the before you give in, he goes inside of you and does his thing. Because your sense will already be heightened it may give you that little extra push needed. Or maybe even try a bunch of different positions instead of just missionary. try the reverse cowgirl or doggy style or something, that may add that little jolt needed too. (Or maybe he's not doing it right?)
Search the internet, you'll find its common for women to not be able to achieve an orgasm through penetration. Show it to your boyfriend so he doesn't keep getting annoyed with you.
2007-03-17 06:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by toronto_leafs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually quite hard to orgasm through penetrative sex. Have a look at the attached link. You might want to try different positions where you can still have penetrative sex, but also have clitoral stimulation at the same time. Go invest in a copy of the Kama Sutra, and happy practising!
2007-03-17 06:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with cnith.
i don't think you'r boy friend realises it's not your fault. alot of women do find it hard to orgasm through just sex. but being put under pressure to orgsm is not gonna get you any where. also it won't help if you can't talk about what is making you unhappy with him and it is not the sign of a healthy relationship. to be honest it sounds like an ego problem for him that he can't give you an orgasm. try and explain and talk to him about it and if he still dosen't get it get rid of him i'm sure you can do better ;-) !
2007-03-18 04:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by QueenB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to foreplay with you 1st, then start to have sex and when he is finished ask him to finish you of with foreplay.
also the build up always helps like a good massage something that turns you on, make you want it more and most like give you more build up for an orgasm
2007-03-17 07:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
orgasms are frequently difficult for women to achieve.... The most sensative area for sexual stimulation on a female is the clitorous.. which is rarely paid attention to or touched with regular intercourse... this would be the first place to start and then relax....THE Best ... most intense.. orgasms though occur from the Gspot.. this is a fleshy spot.. found just inside your vagina.. on the top.. if you put your finger in there and feel for it you will notice that it has a slightly different texture than the rest of your vagina...this can be stimulated (esp with fast movements...) and when it is it will swell or become engorged with fluid.... at the point of climax.. .. you may feel like you have to pee.. or urinate.... at this point.. you should push outward with your vaginal muscles.. try to push him out of you and.. maybe put pressure on your pelvic bone or lower ABD.... urinate prior to sex... always try to relax.. and clear your mind... and really the best place to start is with foreplay.. and clitorous stimulation.. again rarely is the clit touched with just the in out movement.. and this is the most sexually sensative area on the female anatomy... GOOD LUCK>>>
2007-03-17 06:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by jane d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women have trouble achieving orgasms. There are those times you are just not relaxed enough, have too much on your mind and/or your partner is just not hitting your buttons right. Don't worry about not having simultaneous O's - it is okay for you to go first and then him...try oral stimulation (from him) or perhaps get a vibrator. Once he is inside you, stimulate yourself with the vibrator...can make the experience what you are looking for.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 06:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by Curly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 31 and Ive never orgasmed during penetration. My husband was a bit perplexed at first but he soon learnt that I can be satisfied in lots of other ways just never through intercourse! Its just the way I am! Its not abnormal its just our sensitive spots are in a different place! x x
2007-03-17 06:49:08 · answer #11 · answered by freakyfairy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋