what can be done with the man with good intentions but a thousand excuses?

Question

I asked him and his friend out (as a group),but he said hes got a lot of work to do and hes got to hang out at his friends party.

should i be more direct?
or not ruin the frienship?

Answer 1

???

It's hard to know what you're asking here.

Does he not have the right, even an obligation, to his prior commitments?

Does he not have the right to do as he chooses?

Oh! You want to go out with him.

Ask him out.

If he just says he's busy, then he probably isn't interested in dating.

If he says he wishes he could, but he's busy, ask him again later.

Two excuses hardly constitutes a thousand. But, how is he to know what you have in mind?

Don't "be direct" if by that you mean some big declaration.

But if you mean to ask him to go out with you (where you aren't hiding behind the group invite) then that IS what you should do.

He can't read your mind.

If he knows you want to spend time with just him, he can decide whether he wants that, too.

If he doesn't, you'll have to accept that you're friends but not otherwise involved.

Answer 2

Sorry to say it, but a thousand excuses doesn’t sound good.

Typically, if a man is interested in a woman, he’ll come up with a thousand excuses to be with her.

I always advocate being direct. Not knowing whether a person likes you or not is worse than finding out they don’t.

Just approach it the same way that you would want to be approached.

Ask in a way that allows him to answer either yes or no without worrying about what might happen.

Just be kind and sincere; like a friend should be. :-)

Answer 3

Yes, well all the good intentions in the world don't mean diddly squat to me. So maybe I shouldn't answer at all.
There's a saying, "The Road to Hell Is Paved With Good Intentions" and you get the meaning.

Go forward based on his actions and not his words. The longest answer is not always the best, so I'll leave you with that. Oh, one more thing, it's better to be alone than to have a boyfriend that doesn't make you happy. It's true. You two do not sound like a matched set to me. Good luck though.@8-)

Answer 4

Ask outright - not offensively or through accusations!
But you have a right to know, as an equal person in a relationship.
If by asking you ruin the relationship, than all along you seemed to him, and you've considered yourself a 2nd
class citizen. Is that what you'd like to be - as so, "not to rock the boat", baby?

Answer 5

maybe hes one of those special people who do the right things for the wrong reasons,or the wrong things for the right reasons