He went out of town and met up with an old classmate. They had dinner that night and he never told me about it until he left an email open on the computer and I saw it. She told him that she wanted to buy him dinner the next time she was in town. She's married too. He also flirted with a girl in our neighborhood and never introduced me to her when she saw us together. When she knocked on the door one night, he freaked out and didn't want to answer it. I feel like he hides a lot from me and I'm worried. Is this a normal response or am I overreacting?
2007-03-17 06:38:09 · 15 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing to do is not say anything about it right now.
Next, start taking note of where he is, does he go places "Alone?", does he work late?, is there any money missing from the household?, cell phone calls that are suspicious?, ......
Make note of these things and any strange non-routine places he goes. Get a copy of monthly cell phone calls if you can. Men usually call their mistresses soon after they leave the house or right before they come home.
Then when you have your case....nab him!
Good Luck and I hope nothing is really going on.
2007-03-17 07:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. He will need to decide if he wants to stay married or play games. There is no room for flirting and dinner with other women in your marriage. You have to have that talk before you find yourself alone and on the other side of an affair.
It's sad that married men and women can't be friends, but you just can't trust either one in a given situation. Good luck. I know it is tough.
2007-03-17 13:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal response and i dont blame you for how you feel at all... He is hiding alot from you with this and you have a right to know what and why he is hiding things. He may be having affairs on you. Have him followed at times and take him on the Maury show if need be and have him take a lie detector test. I think he is a liar and a cheater and that he is being unfaithful to you and to your marriage. Ask him why he did not tell you about this dinner with his old class mate and see what is answer and reasonng for it is.
2007-03-17 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby you are reacting in the same way I would at first I wouldn't really freak but with him going out of town and all of that I would look at him closely.
The first thing is he is flirting with one of your neighbors? That will not even pass through my husband's brain unless he is joking and we all are aware of it.
When something is hidden it is never good that's why its left in the dark but as my grandmother always said whatever is in the dark would come to light. Prepare yourself for the worse!
2007-03-17 13:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UUMMM NO YOU ARE NOT OVER REACTING. It sounds like your husband has issues with other women. He sounds very immature and does not know what the word commitment means. I don't even know what to tell you to do. I would talk to him and tell him his behavior is not appropriate for a married man.
2007-03-17 13:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intuition is NOT overreacting! you need to sit and talk and if he's not being honest with you. That whole dinner thing is pretty SCARY if you ask me. wOULD HE APPROVE of you dinning with an ex?
Talk!
2007-03-17 13:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to Jerry Springer, my ex-father in law calls JS trouble maker.
2007-03-17 13:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL...ur NOT overreacting...in my opinion..ur probebly not acting enough...if theres nothing to hide...
why didnt he tell you? what u need to say is...' NO your not doing this anymore...no more secrets no more lies..if it happens again..im out of here so fast ur heads gonna spin'!!!
you really need to let him know..this will NOT be tolerated.
he will do it..ASLONG as he can get away with it..
dont let him!!!
2007-03-17 13:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling dont feel insecure! i think he didnt tell u bcoz might b u r too much possisive about him???Might b u doubt on him often??
Just talk to him n try to convence him that u dont mind he have gf(just friends)but he should allways tell u d truth.I think its going to work.
2007-03-17 14:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your intuition is and always has been intact.How many times have you said after an event you should have listened to yourself?well listen to yourself now and get out of this situation.
2007-03-17 14:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋