you to feel as though you need to have tons of personal space? Especially from your spouse? I used to love being around him, near him, touching him...now I cringe when he touches me, I pull away from his embrace. I have been diagnosed with depression, but I'm not in a depression right now. He's noticed this, and it makes him feel unloved. I don't want him to feel that way, so I make an effort, but it's a huge effort. When it comes to my daughter I want to cuddle with her all the time, I can't get enough affection from her. With any other people, my parents, friends, I don't like them in my personal space. What's wrong with me?
2007-03-17 06:27:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How can my being loving towards her be detrimental to her development? She's a very affectionate child, and I return her affection. She is 21 months old. She loves hugs and kisses, and I love them from her.
2007-03-17 06:37:24 · update #1
No, there is no one else I'm attracted to. By person space, I mean my physical space. Yes, he still finds me attractive, we occasionally have sex, but it's more his decision that we don't. It's not guilt, not abuse, not lack of orgasm, it's not just with him. I don't like people touching me, as in, a hand on my shoulder, a hug, that kind of thing makes me very uncomfortable.
2007-03-17 07:35:30 · update #2
nothing it could be you don't love him..maybe he hasn't been there for you in the past and without knowing it you resent him for it. To love ones spouse and feel you should love him because you are married to him and he's the father of your children. Are two very diffrent things worlds apart.
2007-03-17 07:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey it sounds like you still like you husband but don’t love him any more. You may have some guilt about an affair you or your husband has had. Your husband may not recognize the guilt but knows something is wrong. I don’t know anything about your sex life but if you and your husband are still having sex he may be bothered by the fact you don’t respond like you did. You may be depressed because you can’t reach an orgasm. The sexual relationship you are wanting from a man that would make you reach that satisfying orgasm is being released through the affection from your daughter. It sounds like you are very lonely even in a crowd. That may be from a guilt trip. It also sounds like you may have an attraction to someone other then your husband.
Does you husband still find you attractive? Do you cyber with men? Do you ever feel like you want to be released like a butterfly?
You mentioned you don’t want other people in you personal space. Does that mean they want to know things that you don’t want to tell them? Secrets are hard to keep and some times it is good to talk to someone. I’m not sure asking questions here will get the right kind of answers! Sometimes what we ask isn’t what we really want to know. Good luck and try to find someone you can talk to.
2007-03-17 14:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by solow321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with you? nothing,but you may be out of touch with bodily sensations.
theres nothing wrong ,just go along with it, and accept what you are experiencing.
sometimes memories from the past have a way of rising like little evvervescent bubbles.
i would guess thatb someone,or thing has troggered off past abuse,and you are expweriencing emotional attitudes.
if this is true tyou need to guard youer space to help enable you to process what is going on for you.
pick up a pen and write about your feelings,you are a female and this should not be impossible for you.
if you can confide in a friend speak to them,and pray.
dont worry
2007-03-17 13:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did not say how old your daughter is. Regardless unless you want to be living alone without your daughter (this can be considered as detrimental to her development by a judge) get help. Swallow your pride and get help, it sounds like post partum depression to me. And yes, I am a professional. You cannot diagnose yourself. I recall being really weird, after, my second child, when people came to my house, I am very private at home I don't need anyone here, I hate phones, I hate doorbells. Mostly because I worked in chaotic environment and lived in one prior to that. GET HELP
2007-03-17 13:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋