Question that is especially for girls, but I'd like to hear guys' opinions too.?

Question

How can I meet some women?
I mean: what must I do, where must I go, and tell me exactly what can I say to start a conversation with some girl or some girls? With details, please. Don't forget to give me details.
Help me please. I don't have friends that are too close to me, or that understand me, and the ones that I could count as friends are not very close to my heart, and they don't know me very well.
I am very lonely because of this.
I live in Europe, and I have to say: if you tell me to read some self-help book, you don't help me at all; I can not find American books very easily...

I thought maybe you could help me by describing something that you are sure will work.
But you have to understand, (I repeat:) I don't have friends, I am shy, my face looks like I am 18, and actually I'm 23 years old. I am a thin guy. I would not know what exactly to say about me, in the meaning: ugly/nice/cute etc... most girls say I'm "ok", or if I insist "cute", or something...so I'm unsure of that.

Please help me... I need help that is of "good quality", if I can say that.
Thank you.

I repeat: please give me good answers... write many words, please.
Don't give a short answer just so that you'll receive 2 points...

I repeat:
- DO NOT GIVE SHORT ANSWERS
- I CAN NOT GO TO THE BEACH IN THE WINTER!!!

Answer 1

go to the beach baby face

Answer 2

Hmm. well. there are a few things you could do. maybe make a facebook or myspace meet people on there. You could go into a dating website and meet people online first, then after meet them in person. That sometimes work. Im not getting what having not that many friends has to do with your "love life" though. I'm sure you can find a girl. Girls do like shy, cute guys. I for one do;) If you need to talk any more just email me or something.

Answer 3

In order to succeed in your quest, you're eventually going to have to open up to people and let them get to know you really well. Live dangerously. Chances are you'll get shot down. Don't know anybody yet who hasn't been at some point or another. Bonus is you look younger than you are (a difference of 5 whole years, man. Wow! I don't mean to be poking fun, honest, it's just that it doesn't seem so long ago I complained of the same thing. I just laugh at myself).

Have you ever noticed how cats tend to be drawn to people who don't like them?

I've noticed that with my friends, the ones who go looking for someone end up repelling more people than attracting and any of the ones they do attract treat them poorly. The ones who have given up finding someone end up with line-ups of interested parties. The more I try to avoid the relationship game the more invitations I get to play and I am so not into it. But I do feel for your situation. You're young and now's when you should be having the joy and the heartaches that youth holds.

Just don't try to be something you're not like so many people do.

Answer 4

If you want to meet a woman, go to the library, book store see what they are reading and see if its in you interests and make a comment oh thats a great book etc. this will start a converstaion. Go to church, go to the grocery store, sit in a coffee shop and read the paper, keep a smile on your face, use your sense of humour, be a good listener ask women about what interestes them, what do they do for fun, be polite. Its not that difficult, I am shy to, but it just takes 2 seconds of bravery to talk to someone. Life is too short to live with regret, take a chance and you will find who you are looking for. Take care Heather

Answer 5

well,you certainly can't go to some place and start talking to any female there.i guess you'll have to wait for the right moment to find a female friend as you aspire.all i can say is that when you want to start a talk with a female just be yourself and you are sure to make a good friend.how to start a conversation depends on the situation.and you'll have to definitely grow out of your cocoon of shyness if you want to find friends in this world.
please remember that your body type does not matter when it to making friends.

one more thing I'd like to say is that friends who understand you and your feelings and everything else about you are really hard to find.sometimes you just find them in a matter of minutes and sometimes it takes a long time to find one.
and when you get one don't ever lose him/her.

hope i was of some help and hope you find a friend soon.
good luck.

Answer 6

Well, go to the library. Say hi to people. I know that u have a kinda heart, so you should show that out in public. So, when you go the library just pretend to bump into a person and just help her pick it up and say im sorry. And have a sweet, shiny, cmile on your face. If you want you can give her # and just start off like that. If u need any help or something e mail me @ [e-mail]! If you want I can be your friend.

Answer 7

dude chill out!!! i'm a girl and trust me! it freaks girls out when ur all shaky! what you have to do is be calm and tell ur self you can do it. ok, so this trick only works in a reasturant or some place inside. you go up to her and ask her for a pen to sign the check. as she reaches into her purse or poket ect ect. when she comes back up and hands it to you look straight into her eyes and tell her how beautifull they are. this will start a conversation. if not, after she says thank you ask her if you can buy her a drink or if ur a kid a sundae. the thing is to keep complimenting her and offering. but not to much or else she'll think ur desperate.if you wanna meet girls at the beach then you simply offer to buy her a popsticle or what ever they'r selling there. but always remember not to stare at her chest and compliment her eyes. if you compliment anything else it'll work too but the eyes really gets them. but remember to stay calm. i hope you get a girl and i hope you use this advice. a lot of guys do all the wrong things when asking me out and trust me, if you take my advice, you'll get at least 3 girls begging for you. have fun

Answer 8

Just be yourself, simple as that. For most girls, there is nothing more attrative than a guy who can be himself around them. The fact that you have a younger face, and girls insist your guy is very good. Lots of girls prefer cute guys over hot guys. And shyness is a turn on for some as well. Just remember to be yourself around girls, and if you see a girl you like, approach her. Don't call a girl hot or sexy, we prefer to hear beautiful, or even gorgeous. We love compliments, and if we say he look bad, it translates into "give me some compliments," and i can't stress this enough, be yourself. Don't change when your around certain people, its a turn off and it anoys the heck out of us.

Answer 9

really hun all you have to do is just be you. if your into books a good way to meet a girl is go to a library and look for one near a school or college so you have people your age to talk to. just go up to a girl smile at her and ask what books she would recomend that you read. ask her what type of book she likes best. This will open up all kinds of things to talk about. just try not to seem like a stalker okay? lol
if books aren't your thing go to a soccer game or something go up to a girl there and ask her who is her favorite player or what team does she like
hope that helps you hun hey if you want a self help book go to amazon or something like that...but I really doubt you'd want to do that...just be yourself you seem like a nice guy don't worry you'll do good I wish you the best of luck hun! :)

Answer 10

actually where same but i have a loving family who cares for me and no one can do it but only them one thing u will do you will explore dont just hide their and be friendly or by chating and their you will know kinds of people having different attitude and caz of that u will know more how to hundke people and you will meet and a new friends then.and be confident always think always you are the most uniqe in this world

Answer 11

here is a solution it is what i did and it worked.. I placed a Personal ad on yahoo personals & match.com i am sure you can find a personals site. along with your ad put a recent Pic of yourself, Please be honest about yourself and what you are looking for in you ad.. surf the sites type in what age group you desire it will bring up woman that meet your desires. read their ads don't be afraid to contact one if she sounds like someone that interest you, and also woman will contact you if you are what they desire. I talked to men on messenger for a while before i agreed to meet them so i would get to know more about them before we met. you may have to date a few wrongs one before the right one comes along.. I did i dated several nice gentlemen before i found my mr. right and we only lived 18 miles apart.. and now we are married.. so hang in there..