My husband has struggled with a brain tumor for the last 6 years, we are down to days the most a couple of weeks. I am at leave from work, go to the hospital for days and am trying to live on my own for the first time in long time, yet I am only 35. Howwill I get through this and how will I ever move on, how will I even take care of my dogs? How will I go back to work?
2007-03-17 06:10:40 · 17 answers · asked by HRcutie 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am sorry.... but just one step at a time will do it......you are stronger than you think... its already been 6 years... it will be hard... but it gets a bit easier as each day goes by...rely on your family and friends...♥
2007-03-17 06:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by just peachy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Count on the love and support from friends, family and co-workers. If you belong to a church, their comfort and prayers will be your strength, too. You are really not alone, although it feels that way. You will get through this one day at a time. You will move on because you know that's what you're husband would want. Moving on doesn't mean forgetting all the precious moments and memories you two were able to share. Ask a neighbor to make sure the dogs are fed, watered and walked. You can also care for the dogs yourself because that will give you a break from constantly thinking about your situation. Talk to the dogs, too!! hey will sense loss as well. As for going back to work, go back when you feel up to it. I am sure your co-workers will be sympathetic and kind, and having the daily routine of work will force you to concentrate on your job instead of wallowing in sorrow (which is perfectly ok--to wallow if you want!) and get you back into a social setting where you won't feel so alone.
Seek grief counseling as well from your priest, pastor, minister, rabbi--whatever your faith calls them, and/or from a professional therapist and support groups.
God Bless.
2007-03-17 13:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First just let me say that I am truly sorry. I know that at a time like this those 3 words mean very little but I also know that there are no words that can ease your pain. Only time can do that. I also know that right about now you can't really think of many things to be thankful for but be thankful that you had the short time that you did have with your husband. Be thankful that he will soon be pain free and in a better place. Find comfort in knowing that we all are nothing more than visitors on this planet and someday each of us will return to our one and true home. My prayers are with you and your husband.
Take care.
2007-03-17 13:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what you are going thru, but trust me, you will be able to go on. I was devastated when I lost my husband (although not in death, but it felt like it) and wondered the same thing. You will do just fine. You have to be a survivor like me, and just take one day at a time. Some things you will have to force yourself to do, and after a while, it becomes natural. I knew I had to get up for work everyday. I had to take care of my house, and my animals. There were days that I wanted to just die, but I didn't. The beginning is the hardest, but it really gets better, I promise. Good luck to you and be strong. If you need an ear, I'm here for you.
2007-03-17 13:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Zoey ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. I know that probably doesn't help at all, but I really do mean it. It's going to be hard, but you can get through it. Your husband will want you to be happy even if he's not around. You don't have to do this alone, you can get help from a counselor, family and friends. (Not to mention prayer!) But before you worry about when he's gone, get off the computer and go spend all the time you can with him before you can't do that anymore! I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-17 13:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by mrs. vader 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I offer you my shoulder to cry on, compassion and friendship during this most difficult time of your life. Somehow, you must find the courage and carry on. Your journey in this world is not over, for you are about to embark on a new chapter. I don't believe that time heals all wounds, but it does numb them enough that you will be able to function. Take it one day at a time, make time to take care of the dogs, as they too will be sad also. Join a bereavement group so that others who have experienced a loss also can help you adjust. Talk out your feelings and seek out those who will let you vent, cry, laugh and remember. My heart goes out to you, your husband and your loved ones.
2007-03-17 13:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have your freinds close, and you will hold your head up, and make your Husband proud of you, by carrying on. He would not want to see you go through any type of pain, but he will never leave your side. The pain will be there for a few years, but it will get easier, you just have to take it one day at a time, But just remember he is always going to be close to you.
2007-03-17 13:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one day at a time. Allow family to help a much as possible. Stay with him until the end. And while he is still here, discus his wishes for his funeral. I know that sounds morbid, but he might want somethong specific---like a particular song or something. And don't be afraid to lean on people--that's what we're here for.
2007-03-17 13:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...I am so sorry. I will pray for you.
One day at a time...the Lord will help you.
just take one day at a time. You will not believe....the strength the Lord will provide.
I have been where you are...I am going to tell you...it will not be easy.....the Lord will give you strength for today...and Hope for tomorrow.
You will be able to feed your dogs honey.
Email me anytime...Please.
I am more then willing to be your friend.
2007-03-17 13:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, you are so brave, you have to be to go through this.
You will my dear, go on, just as all the 911 widows have.
Take care of yourself. Join a support group.
You are not alone.
2007-03-17 13:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋