it's so weird. like , he has a trillion female friends , and that makes me feel so bad! there is no real reason for me to feel like this... so why do i ?
how can i get over it?
2007-03-17 06:04:27 · 17 answers · asked by ipodlady231 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're afraid that you might lose your boyfriend to one of these female friends. You got to get used to it and tell yourself that your boyfriend would never leave you for another girl.
2007-03-17 06:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Soaring 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know - I really disapprove of my boyfriends having too many friends that are girls or any really close ones. It doesnt bother some girls and some it does. I just prefer to be the only girl, and whats so wrong with that? Unfortunately its caused some of my relationships to end, although sometimes hes okay with it because I've explained that both parties make sacrifices in relationships and go on to list the ones Ive had to make lol. Besides there arent many guys who like girls having tons of guy friends either so its a two way street.
2007-03-17 06:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only why you are like this, i think personally cause you are worried and kind of jealous that he would get to close to them and you think that you will lose him, do you trust him ??, and if so how long have you been going out , a relationship is based on trust and obviously you and him havent quite bonded that trust yet, you dont feel bad .. you feel scared i dont know if this is helping or not .. im just trying to help, but you need more trust you'll get over it in time TRUST ME! hope this kind of sort of helped lol xx
2007-03-17 06:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Babypk2k7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal and OK to have friends of the opposite sex. You will only loose if you try to deter him. It would be best for you to find a way to accept his friends.
Some romances start out as friends and slowly develop from there. Most seem to "hit the ground running" with hormones leading the way. Did your relationship start out as friends or jump right into bf, gf? If the latter, make sure you become his best friend as well as his gf. That way you have one up (or two) on all the others.
2007-03-17 06:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some guys like to keep a lot of girls as friends to boost their ego and make their girlfriends feel bad. Figure out why he insists on having so many female friends. I used to know this guy who would always be talking to females then he'd find a way to "casually" bring it up to his girlfriend. It made her feel bad and he got off on that. She dumped his sorry butt eventually.
2007-03-17 06:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dirk J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon to feel a bit jealous, it's how well you can control it that counts.
You may want to let him know how you feel and ask for his help. One question you might ask yourself is how he treats these other females. Is he flirting with them or are the relationships strictly legit?
If he is encouraging them by flirting with them than you may want to let him know that this causes you pain. If he stops flirting with them after you talk to him, then you know where his heart is. If he ignores your feelings, becomes aggravated or angry with you for having these feelings than you have to decide why you're feelings are not important to him.
I believe a relationship should be an added plus to your life. To ask him to give up these friendships is wrong. To ask him to curb his behaviour (if it is inappropriate under the circumstances) is a respect thing.
Your feelings may be due to his not respecting his relationship with you. If this is the case, then you'd truly be better off without him.
This is something that you have to decide for yourself. What are you willing to give up for him? If it's your self respect maybe he's not the one for you.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 06:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad because you are jealous. It is normal human trait but it also a very dangerous one. You are his girlfriend and as his girlfriend you need to trust him and understand that before you came into his life, he had his present life. You have to fit into that life and enjoy him enjoying you and his life. Many girl and many men think that just because they are together that that means, the other has to give up what is important in their lives before they met. This is totally wrong, as people are never going to change at the drop of the hat or just because they have met someone and are dating them. You both have to fit in to each others lives and learn not to feel bad when your boyfriend is feeling good, by talking to others. You are more important to him than they are. You should feel great that you are with him and you are the special one he has chosen in this life to be with. It is not that you feel bad that he is talking to them it is because you feel that he is the reason you have to live. You need him to be your life and not complete your life. You need to understand you have your life and he has his and you need each other to round out each others lives at this time, not to isolate each other from their lives. Work on it and have fun with each other.
2007-03-17 06:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because you're jealous. I would be jealous too if my boyfriend had trillions of female friends. Do you trust your boyfriend? If you do then you have nothing to worry about. Just reassure yourself that you have nothing to be worried about.
2007-03-17 06:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal especially if he gives them more attention than he does to you. Maybe you should have a talk with him and lay it all out and tell him how you are really feeling. He is doing something that is making you feel insecure and you need to confront him about it. Any guy who is worth his salt will listen and if he loves you, he will honor your requests.
2007-03-17 06:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely, every time any of my guy friends had a gf, i could continuously like, kinda be jealous becasue i actually enjoyed my guy friends better than something and that i only didnt choose them to get harm or something, so i could continuously make the girls to think of that in the event that they harm him, that they could ought to manage me. lol. So, i could only kinda cause them to experience a splash undesirable i assume.
2016-10-01 02:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋