They tell you you're the perfect guy, that normally they can find something wrong with the guy but you're different. And they say they like you ALOT, but they still go after the guy who is dating someone else, who they still have feelings for. The way I see it that makes the decision rather simple. If the guy you like is dating someone else, and there is another guy who you think is perfect right in front of you, what's there to question? I personally think it was a cop-out of the relationship, but who am I to know for sure.
2007-03-17 05:49:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Oh, and one more thing. This girl and this guy NEVER DATED, she just had/has a cruch on him. The whole time they have known each other he's been datign this other girl.
2007-03-17 06:01:38 · update #1
You never can know the truth unless you flat out ask the person involved and even then, take her words with a pound of salt!
It is tragic the things we do to each other in the name of love.
Go with your gut instinct. It will answer your questions here.
Then find a young woman who appreciates you..
2007-03-17 06:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to tell you that she likes you a lot (as a friend), and she can't find anything *wrong* with you, but she doesn't have a crush on you. She has a crush on the other guy.
Who knows why? Sometimes the thing we can't have becomes more attractive because it's not available. Sometimes to be attractive you have to be a little hard to get. Also, it's sad to say, but sometimes when a girl knows that another girl (especially a very pretty or popular girl) is into you, it will make you seem much more attractive. If you had just been dating Jessica Alba (or whomever) the other girl would say to herself, wow, Jessica Alba could have any guy, and she chose "Mr. 100% Cotton;" he must be a great catch. Just human nature, unfortunately.
2007-03-17 13:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Independent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have learned from the magazine "Psychology Today", article "True Love, how to make it last" is that women select their men based off the man's scent. Typically they will prefer a man who smells different from her family (Father & brothers) unless she is pregnant (or on the Birth Control, faking pregnancies).
The begging of the relationship produces a chemical in the brain "Dopamine" (both men and women) creating that "Love Sick" feeling. Dopamine is also produced with alcohol & cocaine. It is a chemical that creates a powerful rush but it is a short-lived chemical reaction. Some get addicted to this rush just like some get addicted to alcohal (Aka Sex Addicts).
Long-term relations result when the dopamine levels normalize and then the brain chemicals "Serotonin" levels take over. Petting your dog or cat also creates serotonin. It is a calming chemical reaction that is long lasting. In some mammals like Dolphins, the serotonin level for their spouses is so strong that if the husband dies, the wife will stop producing serotonin and this will lead the female dolphin to starve to death.
Ok so now that I've bored you to death, how does this apply to your dilema. I would guess that you smell like her brother or father and in this she likes the security you give her. However, for true love, she needs the smell of someone with whom she's chemically compatable with. Additionally, she may have a "Rush" dopamine addiction and is adding the rush by hurting the other women. I would recomend that you find yourself a woman who isn't addicted to dopamine.
2007-03-17 13:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down, everyone want the stable, faithful partner. But...when you get closer to the surface. stuff like confidence and looks get in the way.
So...She says you are the perfect guy because you are reliable and trustworthy...BUT...There's just a little something about you that doesn't quite fit the social "model" that has been created in her mind to be attracted to.
Later, she will see that she should have gone after you instead of wasting time on the other guy.
I've got a couple of past "attempts" that, today, say that they messed up by letting me go. It's kind of a cool ego boost but it doesn't fix the frustration of the past.
2007-03-17 13:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the basic differences between men and women is their emotions. I can't speak for all women, but my experience is this: when a relationship ends, my feelings do not "turn off." I can still care for an ex, while knowing rationally that the relationship is over. My heart may still want to pursue the old relationship or have difficulty accepting a new relationship because I have not completely worked through my feelings of the old relationship.
To put it simply, the heart speaks louder than the head sometimes.
2007-03-17 12:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by not yet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru something like this now...a "friend" has gotten hold of me after many years...I am divorced currently. She now sends me nude pics, and messages about wanting to suck my-you get the picture...she says that I've always been her sexual fantasy...and that the men she's been with don't live up to that. She's married, and her husband could go to my web site...public domain. I'm flattered- she's very attrative/intelligent etc., and I don't wish to ruin her marriage- but it seems she doesn't care. I don't understand it either.
And as a man it is all tempting.
2007-03-17 13:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Cuddly Alcoholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah they seem to like a challenge. they need to think if that guy leaves their gf for them, what makes them think they wont do it 2 them. so therefore they deserve each other !!!
2007-03-17 12:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural
2007-03-17 13:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋