In other words, my grandparents had a great social life even in poverty and had to have guts to meet eachother and have kids and all. and then to raise kids ( my father, uncles, etc) who are so talkative and outgoing.
And me, the grandson is nothing but a quiet shy person who wil have no family ever cause he doesn't even have a gf or meet anyone. My social life doesn't exist. i'm 27 now.
Anyways, the question is.. why is it that my parents and grandparents have a healthy social life but i'm just a nobody. I would think genes have a n influence on offspring, but apparently not on me.
I don't have friends, never had. no gfriend, no nothing. I rarely opened my mouth when i was a kid and i'm soo bad at speaking even now at 27. I'm just aloner.
2007-03-17 05:45:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
By the way, you might say WELL JUST CHANGE and TALK AND BE OUTGOING! But what i'm trying to say is....i prefer to be alone, i like to do hobbies and stuff and it has always been this way even if my parents have pushed me to be outgoing. So it's not just my will. It has to do something of how my brain is wired.
My cousin was so outgoing since a kid and now at 19 he still is and he can't be quiet for a second.
2007-03-17 05:49:07 · update #1
To be direct,this is due to your childhood,they didnt make you used to talking and attending their conversations.
It would actually be hard to start a new life cuz you're 27 years old,but you can do it,visit a shrink,talk to him,let him be your confident,and evrything's going to be alright.
Plus,the fact that you made us (Yahoo QR users) your confidents,is a good point,i hope you'll find the necessary help here.
But believe me,it won't be enough,visit a doctor.
Good luck
2007-03-17 05:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your entire problem is due to the fact that you somehow feel that in comparison to everyone else... You are different and as a result wrong for being who and what you are....
Who taught you that your choices were a bad thing?
Happy perky people social butterfly types of people do have that tendency to inflict their opinion on everyone else to justify their own lifestyle and choices... They are usually Christians, Usually have a tight knit group that they are the leaders of and organize and control everything... Basically... They are control freaks who have convinced weak minded friends who lack an identity, that they are superior and important and should be looked up to.
Go on Match.com and look for another quiet, shy, studious person. Find someone with the same interests and personality quirks. Or someone with the opposite to bring you out of your shell...?
There is nothing wrong with you other than you are not the social standard norm. Whoever made you feel inadequate or wrong for not being exactly like they are... was a selfish moron. Plain and simple!
Don't sweat it... Antisocial just makes shiney happy people nervous because they have to sit and look at something that will not conform to their influence. Basically... It drives them nuts.
So I ask you... Who is in control of whom? Your problem is you allowed them to make you feel badly about it. The best revenge and the answer to the problem would be to be happy with yourself as you are... That will really drive them nuts!
2007-03-17 05:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'd somewhat flow forwards and locate the fastest workstation accessible, alongside with any correct software, like living house windows 7, so each of the drivers ought to artwork for the hardware, then i'd thankfully convey it again and use it for a lengthy time period. i'm no longer particular if i'd like to fulfill any kinfolk. i don't believe of you should meet your little ones in the destiny except you definitely have youthful ones first formerly you go away. or you should get there and finally end up sorting out your little ones do not exist which in turn means you at the instantaneous are not getting again to have them. on the different hand i believe in the parallel universe element, so once you time shuttle you shift to a distinct universe. Making it accessible to definitely ward off your own start. yet in person-friendly words on that timeline... hehh hehhhh =) that ought to point if I went into the destiny now and placed out I had no youthful ones there, it should be ok because i'd be on the incorrect time line, my youthful ones should be on yet another one. =] i imagine it really is accessible to time shuttle, we in simple terms won't be able to benefit it. Oh and assembly your kinfolk is a really very undesirable element, each thing you regulate shifts you extra far out of your unique time line, so its magnificent to prevent assembly kinfolk. except... you do not have any purpose of having again to unique living house.. =[
2016-11-26 02:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by zukowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are different. my mother is night and day different from my aunt and grandmother. apart from the resemblance, you'd never know they were related. i'm like my mother, and my brother is like my dad. just because you aren't the same personality type as your family, doesn't make you "weird".
as far as not having any relationships (friends or girlfriend), then you might want to talk to someone about it. there is nothing bad about it, but i'm wondering why you've never had any close friendships. at 27, you should have some people around you.
2007-03-17 05:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What's the problem?? Be who you are. Do what you are good at and learn to do it the best you can. Accept who you are and give yourself credit for what you are and be the best version of who you are that you can possibly be. Try studying the Bible and learn what God has in store for you. It might surprise you and give you a more positive outlook. Remember your creator loves you more than you can imagine. Establish a relationship with him and see what happens. Jehovah's Witnesses provide free Bible Studies...make an inquiry..
2007-03-17 06:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by J.W. 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well this dont mean you are a "nobody" if you like living like that.
Sometimes the apple falls long away from the tree.
2007-03-17 06:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hell stay single live a little and have no kids!!! travel the world!!!
2007-03-17 05:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋