more of the one i gave away?

Question

ok let me clear up something, i come from a mother who told me she never did love me and that i was a mistake, a felt that all my life, but at that time i met this youg man , i told him why i was confused on life, but the friendship blommed for a moment, we worked together,but i quit because my mother worked for the same airlines, and my job had me to encounter her daily,so i changed professions, my boy friend at that time ,sounded like my mom, he said in a harsh way who is going to help you with your apartment, and that was stupid to leave this job, i felt belittled and at that time didnt need the drama, i had a low self asteem at that time , i met a one night date and believe me when i say this , i got pregnant just by scooting off the sheets that he was a non functional drunk , when my boyfriend called me back and beg for my fogivness it was to late i was already preg, instead of getting an abortion , i felt atleast my child will love me, so i chose my child instead

Answer 1

To be completely honest with you, I have no idea what you are going through and I cant even I'magine what your going through right now, but all I cant do is just guess what kind of pain your dealing with, and all I can say is that my heart goes out to you. What i can advise you on, is that your a strong person and that in time you will get through this, all you have to have is faith, and im really happy to read that you kept the baby, and that you should remember that you not alone and you sound like a very Nice person all you have to do is just be Strong and have faith in your self

Answer 2

Mother ,,,, boy friend ,,,, what does it matter ,,,, Ok so according to your mother you were a mistake ,,,, You can't help that ,,,, IT WAS HER MISTAKE NOT YOURS ,,,,If you had a well paying position already then I can't see why you should have changed your job or adjust your life just to avoid her ,,,, You didn't ask to be born but now that you are here you have to live and she should know this too ,,,, Let her do the avoiding if she feels she has to but live your life the way you want ,,,, Don't let her intimidate you in any way ,,,, But if you felt that you should have changed jobs then by all means that's what you should have done ,,,, Mistake or not you still have to live your life so keep yourself focused on you ,,,, You and your little one are the only ones you need to be concerned about ,,,, As for your boyfriend he didn't really have any say so in this part of your life what so ever and you can't be good for anyone else until you are good for youself first and that includes your child ,,,, He was just a guest in your life anyway and he should have appreciated that and been behind you and back you in any decision you might have made ,,,, It doesn't exactly sound like he was willing to help you with your apartment if you should have needed it when he asked you about it so it's more than apparent that you were alone in that area too ,,,, You are better off with out him ,,,, As for your child ,,,, Hey ,,,, things happen ,,,, I mean it even happened to Momma right? ,,,, The best thing you can do where your child is concerned is remember your own child hood and situation between you and your mother then and now ,,,, You can always say that you learned what NOT to do from her when raising your own child ,,,, If your mother ever grows up she's going to realize what she's missed in having you in her life and now the grand child ,,,, What goes around comes around sugar ,,,, Never for get that ,,,, She is going to wind up a lonely old woman somewhere and totally alone ,,,, You made the right choice when you chose your child ,,,, You sound like a good girl to me with a head your shoulders ,,,, Just keep making the right decisions ,,,, Things will eventually come right for you ,,,,, You posted an interesting situation and you get a star for it from me ,,,, Wishing you the best ,,,, Yoda said this ,,,,

Answer 3

Honey alot of women have a low self esteem and we learn as we get older. Take what you want and leave the rest, just like eating on a salad bar, somethings you like a go back for more and other things you don't even like how they smell. I 'm telling you after years of beating my self up . I have learned to take what is good in life and leave the bad. I got pregnant by a man that offer to pay for the abortion, and I agreed with you that the child would love me even if know want else did. And I am happy to say it really works the son that his own father didn't want is a wonderful man who is 29 yrs old today. And your boyfriend that is no great loss. You don't need anyone to tell you what is right for you.You need to learn how to stay out of the victim roll by picking people that abuse you. Work on building your own self worth and you and the child will both be better for it.