Advice please, a 'friend' that is always late, you try to deal with, but a no-show has never happened?

Question

me and a friend arranged to go out one night, I got to the place that we were supposed to meet and waited, he is always late, then when he hadnt arrived at the time I called and was told that he was on the way, I waited for another hour and couldnt get through to their phone, I later got a call from their friend asking if I wanted to go out with them ( I have met this person a few times but dont really consider them a friend more a friend of a friend) but they didnt have my number so had to of got it from the 'friend' that I was supposed to be going out with, I asked them if they had spoken to him but they said they hadnt and couldnt get through to them either, but how did they get my number? after waiting for almost 2 hours and the call I left. The 'friend' didnt even apologise until 3 days after and didnt even call but sent a sms with a sorry, no explanation. I have distanced myself from this friend, but do you think that I have done the right thing ,should give them a second chance?

he called up a few months later and acted like nothing had happened and then when I saw him at a get together with my a friend of ours I took him to the side and gave him a piece of my mind and told him to be a man and that it was not on, he still didnt give me an explanation, part of me wants to give him a chance but the other part says that you cant let people treat me that way and that what he did shows that the friendship was more one sided as I wouldnt do that to someone that I considered a friend

he still sms me occasionally but it seems that he's waiting for me to ask him to get together and go out but it aint happening and he seems like he aint got the nerve to ask me

Answer 1

Honey! You did the right thing. I think that guy you go out with who's late constantly is inconsiderate everytime he does that. As for not showing up at all and not apologising in person ,with a good explanation is a jerk big time. Trust your gut feelings. It seems to me he had something better come up, after you made your date and he just left you there waiting. Also I think he did give that other guy your number, probably so he wouldn't have to bother with you himself.
dump both of them you deserve better than both of them. You'll find your next Guy to go out with when the time is right. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Talk to this "friend" of yours and find out what is really going on. Your goal is to get to the bottom of the situation. If he has a legitimate excuse, you could give him another chance. If he doesn't have a legitimate excuse, you now know who your true friend is. If he couldn't show up at your meeting spot on time, he should've called you and explained what happened and not leave you hanging like that. Continue to make new friends who will value your friendship and give you explanations as to why they cannot make it to your meeting place. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.

Answer 3

You could try to ask this friend why he didn't show up, but if he won't answer your question, then it seems like he wants to use you, or perhaps something personal came up, but he doesn't want to share this personal business with you. I wouldn't call him again, but wait for him to call you and see what he says next time. However, if the same event occurs again, then I would suggest you to find another friend, or ask him questions why he is always late and why he didn't show up last time.

Answer 4

What a jerk. I wouldn't have waited so long. Thirty minutes is my absolute limit. People who are always late tend to be very arrogant. Unless this was a close friend with many redeeming qualities, I'd bow out.

Answer 5

If you really like him, MAKE him work for the second chance. He needs to show that he can be trusted and if he can't do that, then obviously what is the point.