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2007-03-17 05:27:12 · 24 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you are in love with each other, and you can tell it feels right, it's okay. whether or not you are married has nothing to do with those feelings.
2007-03-17 05:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by pikachu 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
My opinion does not count. It is what you have concluded after 71 answers. Would love to know your age. That might alter some answers. 23?? Don't get impatient. 40??There is still time. 55?? You are mature enough to answer that question for yourself. What do you believe?
Do not believe the drunk. I have tried to help two and only they can help themselves. Was the ex a husband or boyfriend?? If you feel that you made mistakes--forget it. We can not change the past. Live today and look forward.
I married at 36 so I am thinking there is still hope for you. lol Pre-marital sex? Doesn,t matter. He walked out after 2 children. (No, I was not pregnent when I got married) I raised them alone. Looking back, it was very rough but I would not change a thing.
Keep doing what you are doing and just be happy with what you have. Do you want children? Adopt. Love the child. So very many things in life to sink your love into--I have learned--and the hard way. Rejection can be painful.
You should have enough answers to sustain you a lifetime. lol Have any of them helped?????
Good luck to you and I ment NO insult in anything I said.
2007-03-17 07:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one to answer because the right answer is that pre-marital sex is wrong. As a religious man, I know this. Following God's law however is difficult to actually do. I would say that if you wait until you are married it will be easier to instill this in your children as they grow. So many times, we rationalize as most of the people that are answering your question are doing by saying that it is okay if you are truly in love with each other and yet so many of us do not know what it means to be truly in love. To be honest in my answer is to say that in my opinion it is wrong. To continue in honesty I will tell you that no, I was not a virgin when I got married, however my wife and i did not have sex until we were married to each other 19 years ago.
2007-03-17 05:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As others have said, if you're truly in love and have all intentions of getting married, I don't see a problem with it.
We enjoyed it, and well soon celebrate our 37th year of marriage.
I think a more significant issue would be whether or not the couple is truly emotionally mature and prepared for marriage.
Anyone can enjoy sex, but also, anyone with a sense of love is capable of understanding what is important to sustain a long-term relationship.
That's more important than a little pre-marital sex.
2007-03-17 05:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Actually, there is a right and wrong answer. Premarital sex is wrong. I have both religious and secular reasons for my answer.
I'll stick with the secular. Venereal disease would not exist if people slept with only their spouses. There would be no young women wondering what to do because they are unexpectedly pregnant and the father wants nothing to do them or the baby. Did you know that 90% of adults today have the hpv virus? Does anyone realize that we wouldn't be searching for a vaccine or cure for AIDS if people could just keep their pants on. Sex between a married (not engaged) couple is a beautiful expression of love. Premarital and extramarital sex is an expression of animal nature. It's better to wait.
2007-03-17 05:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do not think sex before marriage is a good idea... It clouds your judgment. You become much more interested in the physical aspect of your relationship and less in the emotional. Truth is, good sex will not sustain a marriage. It takes much, much more than that including: common interests, common goals, common beliefs, etc... I say wait! Save yourself for your Husband/Wife! Focus now on developing a good relationship... One that will last a lifetime. There will be plenty of time for enjoying the physical aspects of your relationship after the wedding. Once more, it will be more fun if you wait! After all... If you taste the special, surprise desert before the dinner, it is not special nor is it a surprise anymore!
2007-03-17 05:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by mchlyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Amelia,
You will for sure get a load of answers to this one.
In my opinion, there isn't anything wrong with it.
If others are going to say they believe in waiting until marriage, then that's fine too, IF that's what THEY want.
There is no RIGHT or WRONG answer to this.
It is a personal question and everybody is going to have a difference of opinion on it. It's individual.
There are people who love another person SO MUCH, they want to take their love further on an emotional level and if it is fullfilling to this person or people, then they should go with their feelings!
Thanks for asking each and all of us!
2007-03-17 05:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go for it. What ever keeps both parties happy and excited is a good thing. It does not matter if you are married or not. My fiance and I have been together 7 yrs and it is the same as being married.
2007-03-17 05:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I was young, I believed that you saved yourself for your husband. But now that I am older, I don't really feel that way any more. I still don't believe in casual XXX. But if you love someone and take precautions as needed I no longer have isues with it.
2007-03-17 05:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i dont agree with pre-marital sex. i know a lot of people won't agree with me and thats ok but the asker did ask for honest opinions so please dont give me bad marks for mine. my reasoning is religious. I never had sex with anyone until i was married. my husband was my first and only because i promised God i wouldn't until i was married. i personally think it saved me a lot of heartache. and my husband knows he has been and will always be the only one for me. i think that helped ease the nerves on him too on our wedding night because he knew i had no one to compare him too:)
2007-03-17 05:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by shainamarie20 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a must. If you're not compatible in bed your relationship will suffer in the long run. If you have different drives and different likes you won't ever be on the same page when it comes to sex. I also believe in having had more than one partner before getting married so that you could at least have experienced something else. You'll never have to wonder if it could be different with someone else.
2007-03-17 05:40:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋