i am a widow with four kids and i am in a abusive relationship and i want to get out, but i have to be living with him and he is not nice to me , hits me and my children are affraid of him
2007-03-17 05:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by marie r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GET OUT NOW! Before it is too late. I have seen too many relationships hit this point and the only thing that usually happens is she ends up in the hospital or morgue. If not for yourself, do it for your children. If he hasn't yet started hitting your children, he will and that will be on you. I don't mean to get tough on you but you have asked for help and I am trying to help you. The best thing to do is leave while he is at work. If it is your house, have all of the locks changed while he is gone. Are there any friends of yours that you can get to come over and stay for a few days? If not, when you change the locks be ready to call the police. Even better would be to change the locks but, spend a few days at someone else's house and make arrangements through the local police to have him escorted to the house to get his belongings. If all else fails, get a frying pan and tell him that your glad he feels the need to hit you to keep him in line. Then tell him to go to sleep and laugh while you do it.
2007-03-17 05:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i'm sorry to hear you're having this sort of trouble.
i'd like to say your boyfriend doesn't have to buy you clothing or shoes... that is not what a relationship is about.
he DOES need to respect you and treat you with kindness.
you might need to call social services or the police for help.
hitting and abusing other people is assault. it's a crime to physically abuse others... no one has a right to touch you!
take care of YOU and go to the police
2007-03-17 05:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl i no it's hard but you have to leave for you and your kids it's the best thing to do if you live with him then you need to find a place to live then you just leave when he not around and don't let him know where your at be very careful don't tell him any of your plans until you have them finish and get some help
2007-03-17 05:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by netta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you "have" to live with him. Why not call the police and seek assistance from a battered women's shelter in your area? Would that not be better?
Of course, I can only speak from the angle of a man's logic. I really don't understand why so many women find it difficult to get out of these situations. I hope the suggestion is helpful, nevertheless...
2007-03-17 05:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marie,
GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOW.. even if you have to go to a safe house for domestic violence women, contact me via email and I will help you send me you city and state where you live and I will do everything I can to help you find a domestic violence shelter.. you need to leave.. before someone gets killed.. WRITE ME ASAP.
2007-03-17 05:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why should he purchase you shoes or clothes? As for abusing him...that's easily remedied. Call the police.
2007-03-17 05:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to get out reguardless if u have to stay there or not or call the police they will take care of it for u
2007-03-17 05:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another man to care for you..
Start saving money to move out..
2007-03-17 05:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a shelter. social services. police. fire station. there has to be something like that around you and even if you don't want to press charges on him you can go somewhere safe.
2007-03-17 05:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hits you again call the cops put his worthless butt out
2007-03-17 05:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋