Wife wants rough sex. Why?

Question

Just wondering what makes a woman want that from their past? Next what are some suggestions for me to fulfill her wants.

Answer 1

u don't have to ponder why. maybe she just wants something different than just ordinary missionary positions...

silk scarf, tie up hands. bite her(not too hard)
smack her bum, pull her hair.. all in moderation.
she will let you know what she likes and dislikes. and you can build on that..
i think you will like it too.
do as she asks. because maybe she will want to dominate you next.

Answer 2

Wife Loves Rough Sex

Answer 3

First, it's good that you wonder why she wants that. If it is something from her past or a problem with how she feels about herself, you would be wise not to indulge her fantasies at this time, but help her work on the actual problem(s). Then, if it was still an interest, go ahead. However, if she is just curious about it because she's heard about it and wants to give it a try, then there's nothing wrong with that, as long as it's safe, in my opinion. If that's the case, you could try some light bondage (there are restraints available for B&D play at Spencers and almost all large adult stores) or role playing where you are in charge and treat her a bit roughly, dominate her. It isn't for everyone, but many people enjoy it. Depending on how long you've been married, it can add a nice bit of variety, that's what it does for my wife and me. After getting into B&D a while, we found that normal lovemaking was even more intimate and exciting again! -- I make our restraints and other accessories from scratch, lol.

Answer 4

There is a big difference from intense passionate semi-rough sex to rough sex! I will assume that you know about your wifes past history that may or may not include abuse.It's hard to say either way weither a "Rough Sex Fantasy" directly contributes to something that has happened in her past.
But... I will tell you that some perfectly normal people love rough sex to a healthy degree! I see nothing wrong with passionate, ripping your clothes off, if I dont feel you right now im going to explode sex! In that case the sex could be rough but usually from mutual passion.... Never extreme enough to bring about bruise's and or other injuries.
My suggestion would be... to have a conversation with her about her limitations.And if your not sure how to start... Ask her what her idea of rough sex is? this should answer both of your questions right away.And if your satisfied with her answer.......
I would suggest a quite night at home.Have fun with it! Tease each other until you cant take it anymore! That way your both feeling really passionate.Passion has its own way of bringing on desired results! As women we usually are not as fragile as the opposite sex believes in that area! Slowly test the limits of what is acceptable to both of you in that arena.
Remember... It may be her fantasy, but if she asking you to do something that could bring her harm and your not comfortable with it.... It's ok to say no. I have included a link to an article on the links list.It is a great article written by a male journalist that delves into the subject of rough sex that had someinteresting facts that are sure to surprise you as it did me!! Good Luck!!

Answer 5

sex is about bringing out ones carnal and primal instincts.It is a bout love and passion. Sometimes instead of heading to the bedroom do it in the kitchen, dining room, living room. take her by surprise. Rough sex is kinda like a high. a great need and wanting. She wants to feel that you need to be connected to her in such a way that you would rip her clothes off. She wants to feel like she is a drug and you cant get enough of her. She basically wants you to screw her brains out. It is not about past experiences it is just a need that has to be fulfilled every once in a while. try some toys, slapping her (if she goes for that), exploring anal sex. you never know. my ultimate suggestion is ask her what she wants from you. plan an evening for just you and her. Look up some new position from kama sutra online

Answer 6

Jake men or women has this fantasy that they like to do, maybe your wife wants it from you because she wants to experience with you, not with another man. Just be glad that she is telling you what turn her on. Maybe rough sex is a bit scary to you but you can ask your wife what kind of rough sex she's talking about, and you might find out that its not really rough. And you can go to the internet and just write the question saying "what are the meaning of rough sex?",take my word for it,it will give you all the details. So after you read this go to the internet,..............hope this help....good luck

Answer 7

She may have a hard time becoming stimulated.
Try Safe rape -

One of the most negative things sex can associate with is rape. No one denies that pleasure and sexual assault don't make a pair... with a rare exception. A lot of women claim to desire for a "safe rape" as one of the most arousing experience. So what is "safe rape"?

To tell it more precisely, I would name it an intercourse spiced up with elements of brute force. The usual scenery takes place between well-known partners or an attractive stranger who is "tough but somewhat patronizing" and who is absolutely confident of his actions, the more so he never doubts his abilities or so called success of the most passionate night you both are going tr have. A woman will certainly resists his charms first but soon gives in to his vigor to experience divine pleasure of capitulation.

Due to all this a session, where man enforces woman to have sex, takes her without any condition or objections becomes so appealing to many women. Anticipating the possible disapproval, I can say that no woman will want to go through actual rape. As unlike the feelings sexual assault evokes: fear, anger, pain and humiliation, the end of "safe rape fantasy" is always satisfaction and bliss. What a woman needs in safe rape is to feel the real masculine power and submissiveness. All this actually takes its roots from the days where gender roles were pretty clear: a man – powerful, protective and confident, a woman - obedient, weak and sensitive. And if we actually think it over, our instincts have old history and haven't changed so much with the time: masculinity compliments feminity and sexual power strives for weakness. In this regard safe rape is the return to the core of our deepest urges. So if you are willing to fulfill the ultimate sex fantasy of most women – give her a treat that will make her feel a bit vulnerable.

Answer 8

just be glad she wants it with you. she is just trying to spice things up a bit. be more spontaneous, try places other than the bedroom. next time you come home surprise her in the car or on top of the car, i'll never forget being at a barbq and overhearing a man telling the host that he and his girlfriend had just used his bathroom countertop. the gf smiled all night and the host said, "just do not tell my wife!"

Answer 9

She may not actually want you to hurt her.But may want you to come on to her strong,maybe like a excitedly wildly turned on animal ,with a little force,and no giggling,just pure frenzied hot sex.(as if to say!your gonna get it girl whether you want it or not, cause i so want you, and i cant stop myself)although really she would want to be in the mood.but just wants you both to pretend shes not.
When shes feeling a little horny,give it a try without saying a word to her.You may be surprised.And its not that odd.WE all like it a little different sometimes.Sometimes tender,sometimes rough.
AS they say,VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE.

Answer 10

for variety maybe

could be from some violent things in her past though

maybe try to enjoy it first , then figure it out after

mix it up I think, go for the full range of what we can do , while stying safe and sane