New hours...what do you think?

Question

My husband has been at his job for 6 yeards and NEVER has had to work out of town or stay the night away. His position has not changed but now all of a sudden he has to leave and go to this "other" office and is not coming home until 4 or 1 in the morning and last night not at all. Its 9 am Sat. morning and he's not here. He gave his cell phone to my son, a few months back, so I have no way to contact him anymore. Seeing as we have children & he was honestly working which I HIGHLY doubt wouldn't you make yourself available to a phone for your childrens sake? Whats really going on here?

Answer 1

Well, it is possible that there is really a new office and he's the 'man' to do the set up which takes alot of time. Then there is the possibly that he's been in a car accident....been known to happen--let's pray I'm totally wrong of course. Then perhaps he's been going out to drink and simply got wasted like his college years...we all remember those "productive" time, heh? And simply sleeping it off at a friends, or jail.

You don't state how long this has been going on.

If you suspect an affair....frankly give the guy benefit of doubt first...

These are the 'general' signs:
Sexual behavior changes: Does he want more or even less 'nookie' that before?Emotional behavior changes: Is he moody, argumentive, confused??Physical changes: Grooming habits are the biggies. Working out at gym?Lifestyle changes: Routine changes....this sounds like your husband...but I'm still for giving the guy a chance before we hang him. Only fair.

I hope your husband's okay...if he wasn't in a car accident or in jail sleeping off a drunk, kick his *** around the block a few times that alone would piss me off, girlfriend!! You almost can't ask him outright, you know he will deny it; either because nothing is going on or because he's lying. You can't win there, so don't go there. Just continue to make a little diary of times away; versus time at work, etc. And see if it adds up or not.

I am sooo sorry that you have to do this. It is heartbreaking I know. Just keep your chin up. If you a girlfriend and a shoulder to cry on or ***** with; email me at [e-mail]
Michelle

Answer 2

If i were you i would call the place he works at and see if he truely has new hours or not... I tend to think he is having an affair with someone he works with or someone else. Ask him to get a new cell phone so you can call and keep in touch with him throughout the day and if he refuses to do so then you know he is doing something fishy and wrong. Take him on the Maury show and have him take a lie detector test if need be and if you cannot trust him. You could also have him followed and watched a couple of times to see what they can find out as well. Ask him why he does not want you contacting him at all. Something is not right here if you ask me.

Answer 3

Sounds like he's having an affair. You need to make sure you have all the evidence first though, because if you'll need it for when you confront him. If you just confront him and don't have any evidence he could laugh it off and lie through his teeth and you won't have anything solid to back you up.
Do you have any contacts or allies in his office that can give you feedback on the quiet about who comes to meet him etc? Preferably a male, seeing how any of his female co-workers could be his partner in crime. If there is actually another office, ring during the day and ask to speak to him. They'll tell you if he's been there or not.
And lastly... if he continues to not come home and denies anything is wrong, even with the evidence, make plans to move out. Organise it so that he comes home one day/night to an empty house.

Answer 4

He's cheating. Sudden changes in behavior and habits like this are a red flag. Hire a private detective and then nail him to the wall in divorce court. Right now he is thinking with his penis - and that doesn't leave room to be concerned about his children or anyone else. Been there - done that!

Answer 5

Ok, the obvious answer is that he's cheating. But, it's SO obvious that maybe he's not. I mean, does he think you're that dumb that you wouldn't question the fact that he didn't come home? Most men would be a little more secretive. So, I would say ask him, see what his story is. Maybe he just really wants out of the marriage and this is his blatant way of telling you.

Answer 6

Do you live together. Why would he give the cell phone number to your son but no to you.

He is cheating on you. Follow him one night or hire a friend to do this when he is not suspecting it.

This is too shady, in a marriage, if your spouse is not able to give you the exact location of his whereabouts, at any given time, then he is lying about something. Goodluck.

Answer 7

Well I thought the same thing as most..he's cheatin. I do have a question..Are you having financial problems? Do you think he might be working a second job and is ashamed to tell u? I would ask him first before u jump to conclusions.

Answer 8

Well, this sounds pretty strange to me.

If he REALLY is working until Saturday morning (and won't tell you where or how to reach him??) then he is asking for trouble by hiding it from you.

He's up to something. Not sure what, and I will avoid the temptation to jump to an affair conclusion, but something is up. Don't be a fool any longer.

Answer 9

Yeah, I think that's a big red flag. I would ask him what he's really doing, and if he tells you he's working, call his work and ask his supervisor to verify that. No doubt he'll get all bent out of shape and accuse you of not trusting him, but trust has to be earned.

Answer 10

I would call his co-workers or boss and just "check up" on him. I think you're able to make the correct assumptions without our help. Best of luck to you, and I hope everything works out ok.