Wow, just LEFT a job that had an affair (boss and subordinate) going and I couldn't stand the drama that it caused the whole organization. And here I am AGAIN in this mess! I dont' think anything has happened yet, but they are on the verge. He is in her office every chance he gets. She is late to work everyday and nothing is said. She told me that her hubby is jealous of her boss AND she told the boss that her hubby is jealous. She said she tells the boss EVERYTHING...and my question is WHY? IStn't that adding fuel to the fire? She also said the wife of the boss confronted her about their "feelings" for each other.
It has been my experience that when a boss and employee have an affair, everyone arounds them pays for their guilty feelings. He is short tempered and she is also b/c they are both married! HELP! I thought these two were Christian people.
In my line of work it is hard to find another job. I sure would if I could even though this is my first year here.
2007-03-17 04:53:07 · 13 answers · asked by sweetje6549 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, I am female even though my pic shows male. Tried to change it.
I also wanted to add that she lights up whenever she talks about him. They go "out" together WITH their spouses on dates. I think that is SICK! I guess they think that is okay as long as their spouses go along. No wonder hubby is jealous and wife of the boss has confronted her about their feelings.
Man I hate this. She is a dear friend of mine but I also don't think she is mentally stable. SHe flies off the handle terribly over nothing.
GEEZ! Help me!
2007-03-17 05:05:40 · update #1
Oh and i agree...stay out of it...it is my job. BUT! she makes it my business when she comes to me and tells me stuff about them! I hate it! If I told her that I didn't want to hear any more of it, she will go straight to him and tell him what I said, (she's just that way). then I will be on his **** list b/c then he knows that I know!
2007-03-17 05:10:16 · update #2
It IS your business if their affair is affecting your job performance and the working conditions of those around you. Most companies have strict policies against "office romances" for this very reason. It will only be a matter of time until they are both caught or confronted by their spouses. Try to distance yourself from this person so you will not be caught in the fallout when this happens. Is there a man at your company who could talk to the boss - "man to man" ? He could easily lose his job over this. Maybe that tactic will appeal to his better judgment since the moral issues don't seem to phase him. I admire you for being bothered by this. I was the innocent spouse involved when my husband and his co-worker had their office romance. Both lost their jobs over it and their boss was reassigned and demoted because he allowed it to go on. I never forgave their co-workers and my friends for not saying anything to me. Also - we too "double dated" without me knowing what was going on. I even baby sat her children and took her food when she was ill. Don't let your "friend" do this to your boss's wife. Affairs are hurtful on so many levels.
2007-03-17 05:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be a policy in place to keep people from having relationships with each other but probably not one that covers gossip. People are going to gossip unless the boss is an incredibly secretive person which I doubt. This is the stuff water cooler talk is made of. Sucks but your friend opened the door to this potential when they initaiated the affair.
2016-03-29 02:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christians always think they have the right to do what they want because they believe, I have found in my life Christians are the worst cheaters ever, then they say things like god will forgive me and think it is okay.
Bottom line let the other spouses know whats going on with out the words coming out of your mouth. Send pictures if you can and typed up letters. If they have not slept with each other yet they will, and you need to try and stop it.
Just do what you can and hope the spouses put a stop to it. If they are going out to dinners with each other they are just seeing how much they can put in front of their faces and get by with it.
2007-03-17 05:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you innocently bring it up then they'll catch your drift that you know. Then they might back off of each other.
Try to kinda pop up when their together so that you're in the way. I personally would be scared to go them if you say they are short tempered, and they could say that you are just accussing them of something.
If you want to, you could give their husband and wife an tip.
Good Luck.
(Or just do what the others say)
2007-03-17 05:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should stay out of it because then you WILL end up looking for another job. but you are right, it is irresponsible for both of them to be doing this, and they really need to stop. obviously they aren't doing a good job hiding it if their other partners can see what they are doing, and if they had any intelligence they would leave them. and then of course, they would end up with each other, but how can you trust someone who cheated before? how do you know they won't do it to you? and then there is the whole working-with-the-boss thing, and it really doesn't work out, trust me, in my experience he was the one that screwed up yet i was the one that had to quit and find another job. in another state mind you. so this is not going to work out. so just sit tight and watch things fall apart for them.
2007-03-17 05:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend loves this kind of attention, this is basically her sport and fun in life. The boss gets off knowing that not only does your friend report to him but he's also going to phuck her and her husband is helpless to stop it... it's a perverted power trip.
He's going to do all kinds of kinky degrading crap with her, when he gets his chance.
2007-03-17 06:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people ALWAYS have it blow up in their face later.
Sit back and watch. It's terrible, but if you stick your nose in you'll get burned.
Or, shoot a note to her husband if you like, and his wife. They should know what kind of horrible people they are married to.
2007-03-17 04:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christianity has nothing to do with it...
Adulterous affairs between boss/subordinate are not good..
Affairs between unmarried co-workers are not necessarily bad...
2007-03-17 04:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plain & simple the best thing for you to do is stay out of it.DO NOt get involved.....
2007-03-17 05:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for the sake of your job..stay out of office gossip.
you are there to work..do your work & let it go at that.
2007-03-17 05:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋