I find I am always attracted to stocky, knowledgable and skillful man, but my husband has neither of them. I married to him bcos I like him, and he is a very nice person, intelligent, considerate, loyal and he loves me, also bcos I didnt have enough time to get to know him bcos we were far apart when we started the relationship, I thought I would love him. But now, being in a marriage, I find him more like a trustful friend than my lover, I dont have much passion for him. Some people told me in a marriage, passion doesnt count much, the most important thing is he treats you good and he could share everything with you. But I was in love b4, and I miss that feeling.
Now I have been married for 3 months, I constantly find I want more than just this, what should I do, how can I love him? or should I get a divorce?
2007-03-17 04:32:45 · 5 answers · asked by jing j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's very funny u married a man without love.this's out of question n nobody can believe u indeed.then u married him 4 what?it's very bad n not fair to him if u leave him now 4 no reasons.love can be developed n nourished in the course of time.u need to discuss with him n give him time.take care.
2007-03-17 04:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time, most marriages end up they way yours has started. I suppose that is why people divorce. I don't, however, think divorce is the answer. Forming a family is not about "being in love." The "being in love" feeling always dies. What's left is love--like a friendship, truly caring kind of love.
As well, I think that the longer you are with a person--especially if you really like them for who they are--it can turn to love in time.
2007-03-17 12:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is a short time. you might be feeling this way because you lost your freedom. i would give it a little longer and try spending a lot more time together before you decide to leave him. but don't wait to long so you both are unhappy and it becomes ugly.
2007-03-17 11:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a grown women if you cant tell the difference between like and love then why are you married?
2007-03-17 11:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say divorce? cut your loses now before it goes any futher...it will be hard at first but it will be worth it....and who ever told you passion dont count is freakin nuts.......passion is very important...
2007-03-17 11:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by nwgacouple4fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋