My father in law called & asked me and my husband to haul his horses to a parade today. My husband agreed to do so without even consulting me & also knowing I didn't think we should.
I wouldn't have a problem hauling my father in laws horses on a different occasion- but he was wanting us to haul his horses so he could ride with this one mans ranch riding club. The man he was going to ride for abuses & starves his horses and has over a dozen horses that are 250-300 lbs under weight. I already called the sheriff on him.
I told my husband that I didn't think it was right because us showing up with our truck& trailer was basically saying that we support his riding group & the way he treats his horses. My husband said he didn't care & he was going to do it anyways. He told me when it came to his dad's happiness or me that he chooses his dad- because he owes it to his dad. he told me he picks his dad & that I need to move out- we've been married 3 years, have one daughter & one on the way
2007-03-17 04:22:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Other - Pets
No- the whole reason my husband is hauling my father in laws horses is because the man he's riding for asked everyone to ride their own horses. The guy isn't even riding his own- he's having to ride someone elses because all his ridable horses are underweight.
But everytime my husband or I do something for his family- we get sucked into doing something more. My husband may be only hauling my father in laws two horses up there- but the animal abuser will suck my husband into hauling some of his horses also-
I mean come on- it's a 23 Ft gooseneck loaded with only 2 horses....on top of that my father in law won't have a farrier do his horses feet----last week the family donkey had to be shot because his feet got so bad that he went down and couldn't get back up...
I offered to buy the donkey- but they said no.
2007-03-17 04:55:57 · update #1
I feel so bad for you having an husband like that. Picking his father over you. You should report that man again until something is done about the horses well being. Call the local news and they might do a story on this abusive man. I can't tell you what to do but I would be thinking about leaving him. Do you have a place to stay. He sounds a little crazy.
2007-03-17 04:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, it sounds like both of you need to go see a marriage counselor. You are looking for a reason to fight and argue. Never try to make a person choose which part of the family they are going to side with, it isn't fair and will only cause hard feelings for everyone involved.
I don't condone abuse of animals, but if the law has already been involved and the animals weren't taken away, there is nothing you can do. He also is not hauling the abuser's animals, he is hauling the families animals.
For the sake of your marriage, your daughter and the one on the way, get some professional help. This is not a healthy enviornment to raise children in.
2007-03-17 06:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Christie D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage has a bigger problem than the hauling of the horses. If your husband thinks his dad is a higher priority than you and his kids, you have soem big issues to work out. Get some counseling soon. If your husband won't go, then go yourself so you can figure out what you need to do.
2007-03-17 04:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you just hauling your father-in-law's horses or are you picking up the underfed horses too? I would let your hubby haul just the family horses. Not the underfed ones. If they have a riding club they should have their own trailers.
Are the underfed horses going to be in the parade too?
Sorry, my ornery side is coming out. Bear with me. If the underfed horses are going to be in the parade, get ahold of the authorities and they can see them firsthand and you won't get the finger pointed at you for calling them. If the public sees this, you will have more support in your cause.
Good luck with your new baby!
2007-03-17 04:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ayla B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear....don't walk...RUN. Your husband sounds like a self serving egomaniacal jerk. Men like this rarely change.
Do you want to spend your life playing second fiddle to a man who condones abusing animals and your husband condones it as well? That alone speaks volumes about his character.......errrr lack of.
Your children will grow up in that abusive environment as well. How will you explain to them in an honest manner why you also tolerated this abuse?
Sounds like your husband either has a guilt complex in that he still "owes" daddy dearest something or daddy is good at emotional blackmail and interference. Daddy dearest is just as psychologically deficeint as your husband sounds.
Your husband either stands up and acts like a real man or he can walow with daddy. His place is to respect, honor, love you unconditionally without daddy's approval BECAUSE he CHOSE you to marry. And of course have children with you. If he hasn't gotten the part about "family man" yet, maybe he needs a wake up call.
While I am not one to quickly advocate divorce, there are simply situations that require strong measures. Any husband that treats his wife in a such a subserviant, cruel manner deserves a good scare in divorce court. It's called spousal support and child support PLUS 50% of all community property. This is one dude that needs his clock cleaned.
I am infuriated at such spinless drivel >>>>"He told me when it came to his dad's happiness or me that he chooses his dad- because he owes it to his dad. he told me he picks his dad & that I need to move out- ". What cowardly words to say to a pregnant wife.
I don't care how much money a man has, I cannot see wasting years in a miserable 3rd class marriage.
I suggest you seek counseling through a professional or pastor. It doesn't hurt to get a legal opinion either.
I shall say some "extra specials" for you young lady....:)
2007-03-17 04:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who was right- husband or me?
2014-12-15 19:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands words, " that he picks his father becasue he ows it to him" tell you that you and any children that you have with the man are always going to be second in his life to his family.
If you can live with that then everything is fine if not you are going to need some serious councleing or a good lawyer.
2007-03-17 05:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by tlctreecare 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-16 23:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were totally right and your husband had no reason for doing what he did i think if he wants you out of the house that bad that you should do it not because of him but for yourself hes not right for you . if he would do that to you.
2007-03-17 06:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by dickievotaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋