I've a problem. I feel something for this person and it does really look it's reciprocal. We do have strong feeling for each other and you can really tell only by the way we look at each other. Last weekend we went clubbing and in the way home we got really close kissing but there's always something stopping us. We kind of wanna go further but at the same time escape from the idea of taking the first step. Should I just wait or do something to induce this person taking the first step?I personally don't want to take it since I'm afraid I'm forcing something we both don't know exactly what it is.
I don't know who is more caught up in this ambiguous relation but I'm at that phase I can't stop thinking about it. We both are aware (since we had been friends for a year) that this thing if will take place cannot be revealed. Way too many complications. Do u have any suggestion?
2007-03-17 03:58:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Detail number one: We're both leaving in 3 months and we won't see each other for 7months.
Detail number two: We're the really diff.nt in politics (big issue in Italy), values, background (I'm poor and this other person is rich), tempers (I'm cynical and revolutionary, this other person is lost in the charm of history ,open to everyone and can't say NO!)
The only similarity is that we're both hopeless romantic and eclectic.
2007-03-17 04:23:29 · update #1
Remember that Beatles song "Let it be?" Think about it that way. Sand. Grasp it too hard and it escapes out from the palm of your hand. Hold it gently on an open hand and it stays. Love is like that.
2007-03-17 04:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to push this relationship, it will evolve in it's own time, if you both feel the same way, let it happen naturally. remember the old nursery rhyme... First comes love, THEN comes marriage, Then comes a BABY ... and so on...You don't have to Make things happen just because it's the "done" thing. do it the old fashioned way. date, for a while ( without sex) propose, get engaged, get married, have a honeymoon. and make love, not, make sex. there is a difference.
2007-03-17 11:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by gone! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of things there is much more to this than you are willing to admit. If you are both in other relationships, then give the other person you are already involved in the common courtsey to telling them you find yourself highly attracted to another person and end your current relationship before beginning another that only seems appealing as long as it is considered "forbidden".
2007-03-17 11:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something romantic like sweep her off her feet and kiss her or spin her around or dip her or something cute and loving. If it is going to cause problems then why bother. You have to ask yourself is she a friend or is she more...only you can help yourself with that question
2007-03-17 11:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by melaniejean862209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too vague...more details if you want people to really understand and reply with good advice. Like, why would it have to be secret?
2007-03-17 11:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by butachan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT R CALLING THE FIRST STEP AND HOW OLD R U
2007-03-17 11:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by haley s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask how they feel take your time make sure its love not lust.
2007-03-17 11:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋