its bout a frd of mine , we were good frds till he didn't propose me , but after proposing me his behaviour changed he became very possessive in the sense that he would not allow me to talk to others, would restrict me for going smewhere. he made hype of petty issue. the possessive nature was turning into negative one with rudeness for no reason. he was dominating. used shout abuse for no reason.
its been a year v r not talking but I do miss him at times. I m more qualified then him But i never gave weightage to this. I have tried alot to 4get him but smehow I go back to flash bak. wht to do. I knw he is not the right person but it hurts when i think tat i did do nething wrong. but In was the one to broke off. every1 say tat i did right but y do i miss him still............
2007-03-17 03:49:54 · 9 answers · asked by nikkiabrol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes these things just aren't meant to be. You weren't meant to be with him in this life. You may have been with him in previous lives and just know that someday, you'll be together again. He has his own issues to work out. Just think good thoughts of him and wish him the best and go on with your own life. :) Good luck! :)
2007-03-17 04:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human mind doesn't forget things in a hurry, least of all relationships. It is not only now that you remember him, I'm sure you would remember him for the rest of your life, though the memory would fade considerably in the latter years. You can not overlook the positive - if you two hadn't come close enough, you wouldn't have known the real man in him. It is much better to be pricked with a harsh reality rather than be pampered with colourful fantasies. I'm sure your decision comes after thoughtful consideration. You shouldn't look back now. Time to move forward in your life where a lot more awaits you.
2007-03-17 05:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time spent "imagining" yourself with another person brings your mind and heart to the position of rediness to actually be in that position. Your mind and heart still love this person, because you allowed them to love him before, and love never quits. It can, however, change. In your case, it sounds like you have been very close with this person, and the good parts are hard to leave alone. But the parts that showed this fellow to be not ideal for you, they exist, and are real, and you should not ignore these instincts. They are given to you for a reason.
If you have been intimate with this fellow, the effect is much stronger than had you waited on the physical level. If you have been intimate outside the boundaries of marriage, you have suffered for your indiscretion, and it is a "built in" penalty for premature intimacy. Maybe God had this in mind when He told us not to have such relationships before marriage?
As far as the world is concerned, the answer is to sleep with many, and dull the memory of any, so that the heart is toughened and effectively removed from the equasion of "dating, relationships, etc."
God's answer?.. They that WAIT upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.
Remember the good stuff, and do not forget the stuff that led you out of that relationship.
Think of it, if you had been married and had kids and his behavior changed like this, how much harder would it be to end the relationship: would you wait for the blows to begin?
Next time, have a relationship with two men, and make one of them Jesus.
2007-03-17 04:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Beyond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A healthy relationship is one in which both partners treat each other with respect.
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Please please check out this link!
I think reading it will help u know for SURE that u made the right decision!
Just trust urself and give urself a pat on the back 4 having decided perfectly!
Going back on ur decision will only lead u to further miseries!
U deserve a better person in ur life!
This man will find his path in life!
Don't worry about him or feel guilty about what u decided!
2007-03-17 03:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he really liked you. And if you are really pretty, he doesn't want another man to take you away from him. Talk to him now, send an email or leave a voicemail. If he responds or calls back. Tell him to meet you somewhere and discuss what went wrong. Maybe he can correct his issues.
2007-03-17 03:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be that was your first love which can never be forgotten but because it was love you cannot mess up your life he might be your love but his possessiveness might in the long run create bitterness in family relationship and in the long run you might repend for reuniting with him in love you have to give lot of space and trust to each other if so go ahead otherwise forget and time will heal and you might be destined or might come across somebody better who will help you forget whatever happened and fill your life with unconditional love that what we human need .
2007-03-17 04:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by rema e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u miss him just because u love him more then anyone.... and if u r still missing him then it's the only sign that u can not forget him at all ...do one thing just call him and talk to him...and remember one thing...if that guy is very possessive about u then i think that he seriously loves u...and cares about u..that's y he always made restrictions on u....b'coz he thinks that u r his property.... and all this u think is rudeness...but actually it's not rudeness it's his love.... he just don't want to show his love.... but he actually loves u... it's all upon u...to remember him or forget him...best of luck...
2007-03-17 04:24:35 · answer #7 · answered by pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for a while now you're not forget about the past,when you were with him you were sad isn't it?now you're free and freedom is better than to live with someone you love that don't trust you after all he was able to see his freinds ,did you do a scene for it ?stop having flash back about him it will hurt you more.good luck ...love takes time....
2007-03-17 04:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have not been exposed to my wisdom, if you were, you would realise that this idiot does not deserve you! Then, you would sing the praises of Rev. Rene, thanking him for releasing you from this loser!
2007-03-17 10:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋