My fiance was married before for 10 years. They have a 6 year old child together who spends a lot of time with us. I am cordial to the ex-wife when I see her (and she is nice to me) but I am quite uncomfortable being around her, considering she used to be married to my man. I am curious to know if anyone is in a similar situation and how you get along with/what your relationship is like with the ex-spouse.
2007-03-17 03:29:00 · 8 answers · asked by crabbyone 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
angie here
id like to say that your not alone in this case i use to be like that and the only way you can really do in this situation is just realize 1 hes not with her and 2 just bite your tongue when u have to see her or talk to her but keep the talks short and what i mean by that just keep your talks about the child and nothing else
2007-03-17 03:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's ex girlfriend and I don't have a relationship. I don't talk to her and she doesn't talk to me. They have a 12 year old together (they were in high school when their son was born). My problem isn't that she used to be involved with my husband, it's more to do with her attitude. She does whatever she can to interfere with the relationship between her son and my husband. She doesn't want him to have one. She told him when he was 4 he had a new daddy (her boyfriend at the time) and he didn't have to see his old daddy any more. And other things along those lines through the years. She makes it very hard to like her. If she was a nice person, I'm not saying we would be friends, but we could at least have a friendly conversation.
We just don't interact with each other, which is sad really.
2007-03-17 03:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were never married before we met. You should be glad that she isn't one of those crazy ex's that like to create trouble for everyone. They will always have a relationship because of the child they share. It's good that they can get along for the sake of the child.
I'm sure you had boyfriends before you met your fiance. He is human, he had a past before he met you. If you want to be with this man you have to accept that. He's not with her now, but he shares a child with her, so you will see her from time to time.
2007-03-17 03:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Befriend her. I am friends with my old man's ex. I even go visit her!
The thing is. I'd never do any thing to hurt my old man's kids. It just makes it easier to get along with his ex. To tell you the truth. We do like each other!
2007-03-17 03:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not on friendly terms with my Xhusband or his wife. I tried to be for years, and the only time they were nice to me is if I was "playing" by their rules.
You don't have to like her, you just have to respect her enough to be civil, as I am with the *ssholes in my life.
2007-03-17 03:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get along with my husband's ex, makes it much better for the kids
2007-03-17 03:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't have ex spouses. We met, we dated, we fell in love, we got engaged, we moved in together, we both worked and contributed as equals, we got married, we bought a home together, we saved our money, we traveled, we enjoyed honeymooning for 5 years, and once we felt like we were ready we started a family. Why anybody would want to marry somebody who has already proven that they can't handle a lifelong commitment is beyond me. Especially since you've never been married yourself. But that's just MY personal opinion, which by the way.....you ASKED for! Good luck! Sounds like you're going to need it.
2007-03-17 03:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
non-existent
2007-03-17 03:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋