I'm 22, & soon to be engaged to the man I lost my virginity to almost 1 yr ago. He thinks our sex life is perfectly fine, I don't. I'm painfully shy when it comes to mentioning it, & when I try, I feel like he shuts me down. The 2 main problems - anything/anywhere I want to try, his attitude is either "been there done that", "it's not all it's cracked up to be," or "you've only been having sex for 9(ish) months, you don't want to try everything at once, or you're gonna get bored" but I'm already bored now... very bored... the sex just feels very routine - like it starts the same and ends the same... also, he can't ever seem to last long AT ALL & I've subtly mentioned going for "round 2" but have NEVER gotten it... I've only had an orgasm MAYBE 3 times or so... and I have NO IDEA how to tell him, because I do love him more than ANYTHING, without crushing his ego, that 1) I'm not satisfied in the bedroom, and 2) 15 mins. from foreplay to finish line doesn't quite do it... PLEASE HELP!!
2007-03-17
03:22:30
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Also... another little thing I need advice with... how can I get him to be romantic when it comes to sex?? Don't get me wrong, I'm not asking for flowers and candles and love ballads everytime he wants some... but to elaborate on it being routine and starting the same... I'm so INCREDIBLY sick of him kind of laying on his back and waiting for me to start kissing his chest and working my way down, if you catch my drift... (I've done the lingerie thing, yeah that works, but how do I get HIM to take initiative??) Sorry for asking like, 100 questions at once, but any serious advice would be really appreciated... :-)
2007-03-17
03:30:57 ·
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