I'm really mad and i want to fight him so i can get my anger over wtih it. what should i do?
2007-03-17 03:11:54 · 10 answers · asked by hello people 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
fight him? what-are you 8? Move on and make it a policy not to lend your stuff to people unless you don't care if you ever see it again. Also, he's not your friend any more. And think about getting some help with dealing with your anger.
2007-03-17 03:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tavita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your anger. You probably are thinking that he lost it because he was careless and didn't treat it as carefully as you do. Plus when he told you he wouldn't pay you back, he probably told you in a way that made you fee he was just "shrugging it off". There are two issues you have to address now - how to handle this current situation and how you are going to deal with lending out your property in the future.
For the current situation, you have to decide what it is you really want to accomplish. Is it getting another CD player that is the most important, or teaching your friend a lesson? If you want to teach your friend a lesson, you will need to look into going to small claims and learn how to file the paperwork. Whether or not you win the case, you will have taught your "friend" that he needs to be more considerate of other people's property and that it may be more convenient just to make amends instead of having to be forced to go to court.
If you are more concerned about getting your CD player than teaching your friend a lesson, wait until things are cooled down between you and suggest to your friend that you'd be willing to work out an arrangement for repayment. Be sure to take into consideration if the CD player was brand new or if was fairly used. Give him options - he could buy one for you or give you payments - broken up over time. Or maybe he could give you something that is of equal value. If you have a tendency to angry easily, maybe you could write it in a letter. If you were good friends for a long time, you certainly want to give him an opportunity to make this right.
As for future lending decisions, I make my decisions based on a few things. First I assume that something may happen to the item I am lending. I ask myself this. Is this an item I am willing to do without? Does this friend have a good track record with ALL of the people he interacts with - if he is willing to take advantage of other people, I don't assume that I will get treated any differently just because I'm a friend - people either have a good character, or they don't. Then when I hand over the item, I assume they will handle it the same way I would - and since I do occasionally take risks I know that it's possible I could lose or break something.
For example, I'm pretty careful with my cell phone. But I have dropped it once or twice. I've been fortunate that I haven't broken it. But if I lent it to a friend and he dropped it and it broke, I wouldn't ask him to pay for it. It was an accident and it could have happened to me too.
Just my two cents worth. Good luck!
2007-03-17 03:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by scolon_listmail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends if you value the friendship or the $80 more. Why won't he pay for it? No money, doesn't care? That's a big factor here.
You either remain friends & tell him you're disappointed or walk away from the friendship & forget the $80 b/c you won't get it.
Fighting is a waste of time & energy.
2007-03-17 03:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can sue your friend for losing some thing that you let them borrow then don't let anyone borrow your stuff because sometime they borrow for like stealing or decide to keep it and refuse to give back to you, most time need to say no it mine and won't let you borrow it then they will understand. if friend won't pay you back then you can get parent to sue friend's parent for what friend borrowing from you. don't ever give anything to your friend because sometime they would to be jealous of what you get.
2007-03-17 03:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Threaten to sue him or if you are younger, threaten to tell his mom! Tell him he lost it so he owes you and if he has to he can pay you in payments, but you want the money asap! Good luck!
2007-03-17 03:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue him. He clearly will never learn the value of money. Don't ever let him touch any of your stuff.
2007-03-17 03:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont let your friend borrow anything again and take a lesson- if he/she cant afford to pay it back, understand. if they can--some "friend".
2007-03-17 03:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by junebuggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him if he dose not pay you back you will tell the police
2007-03-17 03:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Paula Alvarez 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sue
2007-03-17 03:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont use violence, sue him for it!
2007-03-17 03:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋