I'm in a hard position in my life right now...I'm 15 and dealing with new situations...There's this boy that I liked for about 5 months now...He told me he only wanted to be friends and I thought that was how it was going to be until he recently started talking about sex with me...He said we can be friends with benifits and I'm torn because I really wanted him to like me for me not for my body...I want a relationship with him and he wants the grown up with me...How can I make him want me for just me?
2007-03-17 03:01:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off, don't have sex with him. That will lose his respect faster than anything.
I understand your feelings, but he's already told you that he wants to be friends. See, guys aren't in-tune with their feelings like we are. They're just not interested in relationships until they are much older and sometimes even then they’re still not. So, what you do now is NOT have sex with him. You will feel much better about yourself and you won't go through the disgust of him never speaking to you again after you have sex (trust me!). And then you won’t give him the opportunity to tell your whole freshman/sophomore class, "She was easy." So preserve what you have right now, a friendship with a young man you like. He could've been dishonest and told you he liked you and dumped you after you had sex...
P.S. You're too young to have sex--anyhow it's completely overrated for women. I personally prefer hugging. :o)
2007-03-17 03:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by TilBot1007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you always hear that you are too young to be talking about this topic. But you are too young for something as serious as this. If this boy really cares for you he will wait for you for as long as it takes. If not, don't waste your time with that kind of person who doesn't even respect your decision. Remember it is your body so you have the right to say no to anyone. Also you can never make someone like you for you. Just be yourself if they don't like you then move on.
2007-03-17 03:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by djperez119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong, look at him and say,"my my he is sooooo hot!, Yet he is just a user, I am NOTHING BUT a human sex toy for him to use and dump at will'This is all he sees me as and all he will VER see me as regardless of what I do, I cannot change, him or fix him and I will end up used and dumped if I give into him and maybe pregnant too or get a disease".You need to see him as the scum he is and move on.Have some self respect and dignity girlfreiend.
2007-03-17 03:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u too young do you no how many men we can go Thu in our life time ? your nooky can be worn out. There is truly a special person out there for you it not about sex it's about commitment what quality he has and values he show you take your time look for that special person can he get a good job education has to be his goal. love your self first work on your self first when you find these thing in a man when you get much older and find a good man and truly love him sex will be wonderful
2007-03-17 03:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by silkstockins24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once he gets what he wants u will b a notch on the bedpost trust ur gut instinct he cares about what he wants not what u want run as fast as u can at 15 the decisions u make now will effect u the rest of ur life
2007-03-17 03:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is, don't give up your dignity just for a guy who doesn't love you for who you are.
Ask yourself, will you like this boy forever? Is he worth giving up your body for? I think you already know the answer for yourself, you felt torn when he wanted only your body right?
To let him want you for just you, it's his view already. If he doesn't like you, there's no way you can make him. Don't sacrifice your body thinking that he will love you in the end, it don't work like this.
Please don't give up your body for these sort of guys, they are not worth it. Boys who love you for who you are will not ask this of you. Wait for the one that is truly yours.
2007-03-17 03:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Shan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one he needs a wake up tell him if that is what your friendship means they he can get lost ignore him reverse phycology make him feel like your a challenge not a vurtue
2007-03-17 03:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your problem. However, I am someone of a very strong opinion that sex SHOULD BE DONE ONLY after marriage. So, that is my advice..
2007-03-17 03:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits? Good one.
2007-03-17 03:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by GeekNTraining 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its not love its attraction or infactuation so as ur clear wht ur prefering frm him then explain him its not the right age to think about these ideas of sex
2007-03-17 03:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by vayuputra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋