I am 20 yrs old and pregnant. Problem is: I have know idea who the daddy is. I make a god amount of money and live in a great house, but it feels like once I have this kid, something very bad will happen and I won't be able to take care of it. My question: Should i put it in adoption (which I was when I was little) or should I try to take care of it myself? can you give me your opinion and why, and that would help me straghten things out. Thanks!
2007-03-17 02:55:50 · 22 answers · asked by Ariel Mermaid 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
a gOOd amount of $
2007-03-17 02:57:07 · update #1
I call it 'it' because I don't know if it is a girl or boy
2007-03-17 08:35:06 · update #2
Please don't put it in an orphanage. Be strong you can do it. Take care of it on your own. Please love it and take good care
2007-03-17 02:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious because having a child is a lot of responsibility. Find out who the daddy is and when you do ask him if he is willing to help out, if he is then the two of you can work it out and keep the baby, but even if he is not willing to help take care of the baby I would not advice you to give the baby for an adoption simply because you yourself were adopted and it will look like it's a generational thing, but whatever happens you need to be true to yourself, don't allow the mistake that you made affect the baby, don't be selfish. Just be sure that whatever decision you make won't affect you years from now. Think about today and the future.
I will be praying for you
Rachael
2007-03-17 10:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel Sulley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My young friend, first off, lets not refer to your unborn child as an it. This is a human life which God has created and given you the most wonderful chance to be a parent. I too was adopted I am sure it will be challenging at first but being a parent is one of the greatest joys I will ever know next to preaching God's word. Yes I am a Minister but I am also a parent and have been a parent since I was 19 years old. So hold fast and just seek the love and support of the local church. Many people make poor judgements but that don't change the fact that the love you will find from your unborn child and from good Christian people will surpass any challenge you might face. God Bless and I wish you the best for both of you.
2007-03-17 10:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Have some confidence in your self! You can raise this baby! All Moms are frightened a little by the unknown because new Moms have never been responsible for a small child before, you will learn how to care for your baby like all of us do, don't give him/her up for adoption-you will be a great Mom, you seem to really care what happens to the child so you will be alright!
2007-03-17 11:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is one of those things you can only decide yourself. You have to consider that you will be raising this child on your own, it will be difficult, and you will have to take maternity leave at one point.
At the same time, if you put it up for adoption, you may regret not being able to watch your child grow up.
This is really quite a personal decision that you can only make on your own. If you are having a lot of difficulties, try talking to someone at a pregnancy clinic. They are often really helpful in weighing out the options.
Either way, good luck with your pregnancy, and I hope you make the decision that is right for YOU. :)
2007-03-17 10:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well money isn't everything. Do you think that you would be a good mom and do you think that you can take care of this baby? If so then you should keep it and if not then you should give it up for adoption. There are a lot of single parents out there who do just fine.
2007-03-17 10:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough decision for anyone. It really depends on whether you feel you are stable enough (not just financially, but mentally and emotionally) to raise and take care of a child. If you think you are, good luck. :) If you don't, well, I applaud you for choosing the route of adoption and giving someone else the chance to be a parent that they might not have had otherwise.
2007-03-17 15:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not put it up for adoption. My mother was a single mom at age 28 and she was fine. She found a man and got married and they lived happily ever after. I would keep the baby since you have the money too. I would also ask for family help with support if you need it. My mom had a lot of friends helping her through it.
2007-03-17 11:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Emily Answers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 20 years old and you dont know who the father is, well i believe you should grow up and find the childs father, a child NEEDS their father, unless the father is on drugs or is just not good at all. Dont give the baby up because you think something bad will happen! Thats not right. I believe you feel like you're doing the same thing youre parents did. Goodluck!
2007-03-17 11:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you should be able to take care of the child, just make sure to get full custody of the child. This way, the real father can't just come in and take the child away. I would also suggest a DNA test to find the father. This way the father will have to pay child support.
2007-03-17 10:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by demortis666 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ure sayin u wanna give it up 4 adoption rite now, u dont have it yet but it really wont be an easy decision to make once u see the lil cute face and eveything....u need a pretty good reason to give up a child 4 adoption coz when the grow up, they'll wanna find u, and they'll ask u y u gave them up. teenagers have children o the time (have a friend 4rom sku who has) but they manage, if they can, u can too!
2007-03-17 13:27:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋