i dont know what to do, i'm only 17 and i'm pregnant already.?

Question

it all started 5 days ago, i was drunk and i passed out. next morning, i just vomitted in the toilet until i found out that i was pregnant.

i dont know how to tell my parents about this, even my bestfriends dont know about it. its only between me and my boyfriend.

i'm planning to live in another place,just run away one night.

i really need help.

should i abort this baby or just live with it? or maybe give birth then give the baby to the orphanage?

help me please...=(

Answer 1

are you sure you didnt just get too drunk cuz i almost always puke after i get drunk and you cant even get a positive pregnancy test til AT LEAST 3-4 weeks after you have sex so i doubt just chill out and take a tylenol or your hangover

Answer 2

You poor baby; you are too young to drink and way to young to be sexually active. I had a friend who got pregnant in high school and she had an abortion. I was her best friend and was there with her when she told her mother. her mom was very understanding and did not want to cause to much hurt to her because the situation is very sensitive. But she did this twice like a dummy!!!!! My point is I do not know how your family is and how understanding they can be but you made your bed so lye in it. You are too young to runaway and probably don't have any money to support yourself or your unborn child. What does your boyfriend say or think about the situation? I hope he is not the one encouraging you to leave home. If you abort your baby you will regret it unless you are a careless person who only looks out for you. If you were to birth another child in your LATER YEARS you will wonder what your first born would have been like. Talk to your parents and a church counselor or since I am sure you must be in school because of your age a guidance counselor can help; they can even help you to come up with the best way to approach your parents or be there when you do it? I hope this helps but running away is not the answer.

Answer 3

wow! some of you out there are pretty harsh. This site is to help people and not make them feel bad about what already has happened.

I am so sorry that you are in this situation, how frightening. I would go to a planned parenthood as someone advised. You don't have to make any decisons- first make sure you are pregnant and get lots of information on your options. Someone out there said not to give the baby up for adoption- imagine how they would feel. I think if that is the right choice for you it is very brave. It is much more selfish to keep a baby if you can't take care of it or do not want it. I am adopted, and have never felt unloved or unwanted. In fact, I always felt special because my parents chose me! I have been able to become a doctor and love my life. But I also know that this decision is for you to make. Sometimes women keep their baby and it is a blessing. Or sometimes they choose abortion,and that it a blessing for those individuals too. Please dont listen to those people that are being so mean. Everyone makes poor choices, we hopefully learn from our mistakes. take care of yourself, please dont run away from this.

Answer 4

OK. Don't do the running away thing. Your parents will be shocked at first, but eventually they will come around. They would be mortified if you ran away. Also, they may be more dissappointed in you if you had an abortion.
Just tell your parents and get it over with. The same thing happened to me. I was so nervous to tell my dad (mom passed away). When I told him, he said, "Well...OK" Had I known it was going to be that, I would have told him weeks before. I also think that you should know that my parents were pretty strict.
If you don't think that keeping the baby is an option, there are 2 million couples every year looking to adopt. Since you can choose the couple that gets your baby, I would say that adoption would be the best, unless you are ready to be mommy.

Answer 5

Don't run away. You've done a grown-up thing and now you need to deal with it. Tell your parents you have something to discuss with them. If you fear their reaction, ask to have someone else present (a grandparent? an older family friend? an aunt or uncle?) or go to someone at school first (a counselor or your principal) and ask them to help you tell your parents. Please tell a trusted adult before you make any decisions. Your parents may be more supportive than you know. Only you can make the decision about what to do with your baby. You must look into your heart and decide. As a person who deals with infertility, I am hoping you won't choose to abort it. There are many people out there who would love your baby and give it a good life if you decided you weren't ready right now. No matter what happens, take this as a serious lesson in your life. Figure out what lead you to this place and figure out how to avoid it in the future. Lots of women have babies when they are young. They accept it and make a good life for their child. Take things one step at a time. First, take a deep breath and figure out who (an adult) you are going to tell. You can do this! :) Good luck! :)

Answer 6

Wow, I know this is really hard. Only you can make this decision but you have to really think. No matter what you do its not just "going away" Do some research on abortion. Alot of girls that have an abortion have years of regret and depression. One of my good friends had one years ago and still thinks about it everyday. She gets really depressed especially at that time of the year when she had the abortion, then again when she would have had the baby. I have heard this story alot. Im not saying all do but this is just what I have heard. I know it will be hard but you have to tell your parents and your friends. You dont have to decide on adoption right now either. If you are thinking of it then take the next 8 months to think about it, research it, talk to people. My advice would be not to sign anything till after you have the baby. Im sure you have heard all the stories of people changing their minds after the baby is gone. Other people just know they cant take care of the baby.
Good Luck. Tell your parents, your friends and talk it out with people who will talk and not yell and make you feel bad

Answer 7

Boy, you DO need help! On a side note, what are you doing drinking at 17?

Anyway, you should definitely tell your parents, or if you think they might freak out and hurt you, you should go to another adult outside of your family and situation. Don't run away, because you'll only be making things harder on yourself.

Whether or not you decide to abort, adopt, or keep the baby is your personal decision.

Answer 8

So u threw up in a toilet and found out you was pregnant? Did you even take a test? Just because you throw up doesnt mean you're pregnant. It could be many things, like a hang over? Dont run away cause (If) you're pregnant i didnt run away when i found out i was pregnant i didnt give my baby away. But the 1 thing you have to do is go take a test!

Answer 9

I know you're scared and you don't want to tell your parents. But they will eventually find out and you really need their support now. They might get mad when you first tell them, but they should come around and support you. You can also talk to a support center that helps pregnant teens. Here's a website -- I googled "teen pregnancy" and got this, but there are lots of others.

http://www.etters.net/teen.pregnancy.htm

Don't make any rash decisions right now. You do have lots of options, but please don't make running away one of them. If you run away, you'll be in a strange place, alone, without any of the support systems you need. Only you can decide what you want to do. You will get lots of advice here, but it's your decision. I would definitely call a support center though. They are non judgemental and they deal with people in your situation all the time. They will be very helpful.

God bless and take care. You WILL get through this.

Answer 10

First off its impossible tonow if your pregnant in only five days unless you were pregnant before that, secondly, tell your parents you need they re help dont abort the baby and dont run away I had my first kid at 16 I understand how scared you are but I ma telling you it will all be ok god wouldnt have given you this oppurtunity if he didnt think you could handle it every thing happens for a reasson

Answer 11

First of all, don't panic,why not tell your parents about it, if you don't know how to tell your parents why not you write a letter to them so you don't have to tell them face to face. Don't send this baby to orphanage because imagine you were born without a parents. I think if you have any close friends or best-friends you should really tell them for asking some help. If you really find difficulties telling your parents try telling them when they are in a good mood, or ask questions for example like: "If I am pregnant will you be very mad at me" something like that. Not telling to your parents they will sooner find out and they we be even more angry. Try telling you parents and tell them the whole story to them. At first maybe your parents will get mad but then thats because they love you. If they really loves you, they should support you and help you get throught them, don't kill the baby.

Wish you luck and I'll give my courage to you