My ex bf said when he was tiding his room, he found a letter he wanted to send me 4 years ago.. but for some reason he never did.. and he said he doesn't even know what is inside the envelope, he doesn't remember what he wrote! He already sent the letter (without knowing what is written)! I think he is playing games with me..
My question is: why would he want to send me a 4 years old letter? dont you think this is strange?
2007-03-17 02:33:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said to me as soon as i receive to let him know! i think he lied to me. off course he knows what is written,,
2007-03-17 02:42:19 · update #1
wait and see what is in the letter, maybe it is something good and he is kinda playing a game.
2007-03-17 02:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things come to mind here.
First: The age of the letter? Is it four years old? Didn't the postage rate change a few times if that is true? That's the easiest way to check that.
Second: Assuming the first question turns out true (it is that old), did that time period fall about the same time as your relationship started, in the middle, or maybe as it was ending? This may have some bearing as to why he wrote this letter, or maybe even what the contents are.
Third: Assuming the first question turns out true again, he may actually forgotten what was written, or may have needed the elapse of time to pass if he does remember.
Lastly: Is he playing games question would all depend on what was written, and when. There is only one way to answer that, open and read it. Do not let it bother you if it isn't quite what you would like, but also don't let it bother you if it is something you like. You need to weigh out what YOU want to do, why it broke up, what it was worth to you when you were together, is it a plea to return, was it a letter written at a good point or bad point, and is it worth your effort to go there again?
Whatever your choice best wishes and good luck.
2007-03-17 20:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would open the letter just to see how dated it is. How does he know he wrote it 4 years ago, but doesn't know what is inside? I would be cautious when reading it. I have found letters, old emails, and journal entries that I had forgotten about that reminded me of an old feeling. Maybe that happened to him. Read the letter, then discuss it with him. Trust your gut on this one.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 09:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me this is not strange at all... I kinda feel it is romantic and neat. This tells you he thought enough of you to do so. He wanted to make sure you got the letter once he found it. Just enjoy it and be glad that he sent it and dont knock it. I think you are reading way too much into this simple act of kindness. He wrote it to you and he made sure you got it:) Also ask him why he waited so long to send it and ask him why he meant to do it this way. He just may tell you why. I dont think he is playing mind games with you at all.
2007-03-17 10:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's playing games. Of course he knows what it says, he wouldn't be sending it otherwise would he? I have a feeling it will be mushy and sentimental and is a way of getting back with you, daft way to do it though and is it really 4 years old? I don't know him but it sounds like games to me I'd agree with the earlier response send it back! If you are not interested in getting back with him then don't open it, it might change your mind for the wrong reasons.
2007-03-17 09:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can see writting a letter and not sending it. Maybe not the time and place for his feeling then. But to take a letter, that he doesnt know what is inside of it and mail it.. sounds fishy to me.
2007-03-17 09:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he can prob rem what 'roughly' is written. Maybe it is an explanation of some sort to let you understand him. What i wonder is why if he is an ex does he still have the need to send it. Strange! I guess he still wants to tell you something! Maybe this is his way of communication....... men....... they are a nightmare on this subject 'most' times! lol
2007-03-17 11:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's lying that its 4 years old. He could have written it recently, and the words inside he may have wished he'd said all that time ago. Very confusing - Men!!
2007-03-17 09:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would tell him you through the letter in the bin as it was written 4 years ago and you dont need to read it now. then read it and whatever it says keep it to yourself, this will teach ur man that he has to open up his feelings to you rather than putting them on paper!
2007-03-17 11:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
men can be strange sometimes...
interesting that he wrote it..never sent it..found it ..didn't open it..
and is sending it to you now!!??
when you receive the letter...do not open it..put it in an envelope and mail it back to him!!
2007-03-17 09:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋