i'm married to a girl who claimed to be in love wid me n was mad to get married to me.now wen we'r married differences have started arising,she resigned from her job where she was earlier b4 marriage n got a job where i'm.but recently she resinged from this new job also sayin this city doesn't suits her.since 4 months we'r stayin apart she is presently at her father's place.my life has turned into a hell she me n family verbaly,though we did nothin to hurt her niether anythin was hidden from her.i told her that she's free to go n work anywhere n if she wants a divorce she can go 4 that also......all the time she's fightin on phone never tries to understand how i'm tryin to manage wid her sky shootin expenses..she abuses my family members,doesn't let me talk to her parents abt the problem our relation is goin thru.not able 2 decide wat to do should i believe her leave my job since she wants me to come to her n leave the place where i'm right now..should i believe her n leave my job HELP
2007-03-17 02:21:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the best thing you can do right now it find a good divorce lawyer. If she is being verbally abusive to you or your family on the phone keep a log. Honestly, I only have your side of the story but she sounds like an unstable personality. Cut your losses and run.
2007-03-17 02:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what her reasons are, but sometimes women can be as mysterious as men. We sometimes do things, expecting the man to know what is going on and what is bothering us without ever telling them. Do you love her? Do you want to make your marriage work? Before doing anything else you have to answer those questions honestly for yourself.
Maybe time apart is good, if she is treating you that way. Don't take her phone calls for a few days and see if that causes her to miss you. If she doesn't then maybe it is time to move on. But I am a believer that if two people love each other and want to make it work, it is possible. But you would both have to work at it and maybe see a marriage counselor.
Good Luck.
2007-03-17 09:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ammikins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your brain, what do you think is the right thing to do. She obviously lay's the law down quite a bit, now it's your turn. Lay down your law with her, tell her what YOU want. If she don't like it than your marriage might not be worth it. In a marriage it takes two to tango. Both have to be willing to make sacrifices and work as a team. If you can't be happy then it's just not working.
2007-03-17 09:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Elyse h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to not leave your job. Sounds like she has never been happy with anything you have done, why would she be happy with you quiting your job. She is abusing you and the marriage. No insult intended, but sounds like she has some mental issues. I sure hope there are no children here.
Good luck--sounds like you need more than luck.
2007-03-17 09:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters I would say you should have stayed in school and not gotten married at such a young age, your poor grammar is a dead give away. My suggestion to you us to use your insurance from you high paying job and go see a marriage counselor.
2007-03-17 11:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see some women get married and go crazy if you are comfortable and stable then you stay right where you are and if she want to make it work then she will come back and why are you allowing this woman to be mean to your folks and you cant even talk to her's so man up and tell your wife whats really good either she can accept it or reject it this choice is yours
2007-03-17 09:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by mocha27girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in your job, leave HER
2007-03-17 09:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not she is just a selfish girl.u should keep ur way on
2007-03-17 09:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by beba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋