I'm 13 years old and one of my best friends is on drugs. what can i do to help him without telling an adult?

Question

his mom died last year

Answer 1

that sound bad for ur friend , u should contact adult not from his family,but someone els,u doing good work not for ur friend but for mankind also.l m sure that ur courage & hardwork will make u proud of urself,n ur parent also feel proud,best of luck dear.i pray for u, tc

Answer 2

He's probably going through a tough time, because his mother recently died. It depends on how long he's been on drugs, on whether you should tell someone or not yet. First tell him that you are always there for him to talk to if he needs help. Then tell him that drugs are bad for him and illegal at this age. Tell him some consequences. Eventually, you will have to tell an adult, because if he does it too long, and dies, you will feel really bad for not stopping him, and possibly saving his life by telling an adult. He should see a therapist to get over the stage safely.

Answer 3

I am very sorry that you are having to deal with this at such a young age, and I also hate to tell you that this adult problem can be handled best by adults. Please don't feel bad, you are doing this friend the biggest favor you could possibly do. They may not realize that while the drugs have a hold on them, but they will when they are drug free. Your friend is lucky to have you as a friend. Stay strong!!!

Answer 4

I've heard first hand some heart wrenching stories of teenagers so young on drugs.

You're in an awfullly difficult position. You want to save your friend, but don't want to rat him out.

First of, you absolutely HAVE to try sitting him down (casually for a meal at McDonalds) or something. Then halfway through, strike up a conversation regarding the drugs. Go about this carefully.

Perhaps you could tell him a story of something you "read". You can really go read up some heart stopping tales, or make one up (make sure it's believable!). Tell your friend the story, and then see his reaction. Tell him as a friend (DON'T go all motherly on him), that you're very concerned after reading this story, and that you would hate if anything happened to him.

If he listens, good for both of you. If not, I'm awfully sorry, but you're going to have to bring others in.

You could always try bringing in one or two (max) close close friends and ask them to help persuade him.

Also, you should try to find out what in the world put him on these drugs. If it's some bad company, then slowly ween him away by monitoring him and asking him to get involved in something in schoool.

If it's stress, then you should rally around him more. Let him know he's not alone.

You have to take note that stopping drugs isn't easy, so you have to start as soon as possible but be sure to do it slowly.

However, if he gives you a negative response and just shrugs away all your advice, don't keep pushing. He'll get mad at you and then he'll just fall further into bad company, and you have no right to say anything then.

Instead, go to his older sibling or someone older whom he's very close to. If he has one of those cool aunts who won't nag his head of, then tell the aunt and see what she says. If not, then let his parent's know.

Make sure he doesn't come to know who told his parent's- not until he's sobered down.

It's something awfully hard to do, but it could save his life.

Answer 5

You may be too young to understand now but the only person you can tell is an adult(maybe your parents)but your friend will soon die without the proper intervention. Your folks will know what to do. I really hope that you do something. Your are both so young and I know that it is society's fault that your friend is probably doing drugs, but the time to stop is NOW. Good luck.

Answer 6

The only way for you to help him without telling an adult is to make him understand why he should stop. Print out information about what the drugs will do to him physically & how it can potentially ruin his life. You will need to make a strong stand with him. You may have to resort to threatening to cease the friendship if he continues to do the drugs if you feel very strongly about it. He may stop it because he does not want to lose your friendship. He may hate you now but he will thank you later.

Answer 7

At that age, you are going to have to tell an adult if you want to really help your friend. You will most likely lose that friend, but you could save his/her life as well. Sometimes the right decision is not the easiest.

Also you could get in trouble hanging around with this person. People who do drugs make bad decisions about everything and could endanger those around them.

Good luck

Answer 8

If your a real best friend, tell an adult, your parent, their parent, or someone in authority. The best help your friend can get is from someone with maturity and training to help your friend get out of this mess. Good for you for looking out for him, but professional treatment will help out more in the long run, kids do not have the skills, and many adults do not as well. If your friend gets the help they need, and kick this slow-death habit, they will thank you in the future for caring enough to risk your friendship. Good luck!

Answer 9

That is a very bad situation, and you might just have to tell...and honestly a good friend would. I know you feel like you would be narcing on this friend, but they need help you can't give them. Especially if they do no want help.
If they keep on doing drugs you better not hang around with them anymore.....To protect yourself and maybe when they see that you won't tolerate them using they might just take a look at what the drugs are doing to them.

Answer 10

That is a tough one. You could tell your best friend that you don't like seeing him/her on drugs and that you really don't want to be friends with someone who does drugs. But I would only recommend that if you are willing to give up your friendship with this person.

There are other ways to deal with this situation. You could go to a counselor (school or otherwise) or the school nurse and tell them you are concerned about someone doing drugs. They may have some ideas to help you.

Just remember, you can not control how others act, you can only control your reactions to what they do or don't do. It is not your fault if they decide not to seek help with their problems.

Good luck *smiles*

Answer 11

The problem is that you can't really help a person if you don't know how to help them. The best thing to do is to tell an understanding adult that will help you help him. (if that makes sense) You really should tell an adult or talk to a doctor, they are confidential about these things.