I am a divorced father, my ex-wife keeps asking me to change the court ordered pick up and drop off times to accomodate her (she has something to do and needs to meet later or ealier). I have grown tired of this and the drive to meet her is WAY out of the way of what we are doing most of the time because she moved across town. My question is this, she asked me to meet her either an hour later or 4 hours earlier, I cannot do either one because my new wife and I have plans with him all day up to the time we drop him off and plans with friends after we normally drop my son off with my ex at the meeting place. I told her she is more than welcome to pick our son up when she needs to if need be, but she will have to make the full drive to our house to get him because I am not going to make the drive if it's not our "court ordered" drop off pick up time.
- Can I get in trouble if I dontm eet her when she says I have to if it's not the court appointed time?
2007-03-17 02:16:54 · 15 answers · asked by redwing_nutso 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, as long as you are following the court appointed time then you are not in contempt of court, however she will be if she doesn't follow the court ordered agreement. If she wants the schedule changed, she needs to put in for a modification of visitation. There is ABSOLUTELY no reason why you should have to. You're obeying the rules established and basically she's just trying to cause problems.
2007-03-17 02:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot get into trouble. It works both ways. If you were an hour late or four hours early by your own volition, she has no obligation to be at the drop off (or pick up) site.
It works the same for you. The court gave each of you a specified time and that's that, unless you mutually agree to change the times given. You are under no obligation to change the times simply because she wants you to.
2007-03-17 03:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Marina D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can get into trouble...how about kidnapping charges? Your ex wife sounds like the type who would do that. I suggest you speak to your lawyer and find out if you can alternate drop offs and pick ups. One week you pick up and drop off the next week she does it. Or meet somewhere halfway between the two of you.
2007-03-17 05:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She has as much of an obligation to work this out as you do. You dont have to suit her wants and needs and I suggest you make that very clear to her.
Whatever her deal is, it is just that, her deal. Dont let her worry or scare you and dont think you need to accomodate her. If she keeps playing games, take her to court and have the judge explain it to her.
By the way, make sure you keep excellent notes of all conversations, the things she asks, the times she changes things around and the supposed reasons for it.
2007-03-17 03:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to pick your child up at your child at your house if she is the one changing the routine.
I would recommend trying to be flexible for your son's sake.
However, if you think she's doing this just to yank your chain then three words of advice...document, document, document.
Every time she changes the time, place etc., make sure you write it down. Keeping records will help you immensely if you have to go back to court.
If you go in with documentation of what she does, and how often it occurs, it is much better in front of a judge than just saying,"She keeps changing the times and it's ticking me off!"
Good luck!
2007-03-17 03:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To save face with your son. Try to be more agreeable with your ex. If she offers to give you your son earlier, take him! Don't just rant that your mad because it isn't court appointed. I went trough this with my ex. Eventually he agreed to accommodate me. Then I in turn accommodated him. It is all in the agreeing thing here. And trying to get along for the sake of every body.
Yes you can get into trouble if she should call the cops if you do not return your son on the said time. But not arrested unless you kidnap him.
2007-03-17 03:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not court appointed then no you shouldn't get in trouble. But don't agree with her scheudule in the mean time. Its something that you (meaning your ex-wife and you) are going to have to resolve in the court system to provide what's best for your son. Just don't let your son get in the middle of all the bickering that you and your ex do, its not healthy for him.
2007-03-17 02:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not the court appointed time then I would think that it should be her responsibility to get the child to you. Some people just can't follow rules. We have the same problem with the nephews that we have custody of. Their mother and father never follow the rules.
2007-03-17 02:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll get in trouble for anything. The court order is a court order and she needs to abide by that, or she's the one that's breaking the order, not you. Call your lawyer and talk to him/her.
Good luck!!
Sandy
2007-03-17 02:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by cocacolachickee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to the court order as that was what it was put in place for.
2007-03-17 02:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋