Some people obviously have there suspitions because ive had like 6 or 7 people ask if I was gay but I am bi but im not out so we are all in a circle and since no one atleast in that class knows im gay or suspects it is just getting on gay people gay rights and everyone thing they were saying about gays were so sterotypical this one guy said I hate homos walking around talking like girls with hand bags and ****. Not knowing im gay there just blasting "homos" I felt very akward I wanted to scream outloud im gay and you guys love me I dont fit any of those stereotypes except for being horrible a sports. most dont know im gay and it feels sooo akward when people say grimey stuff about gays around me what should I do. And why is it some people can ask if im gay like they can tell and others cant.I dont necesarilly talk gay or walk gay (stereotyping) and I hang around mostly guys not a bunch of girls so most people cant tell im gay but why is it some can.
2007-03-17 01:42:36 · 5 answers · asked by itsthebeesknees123 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
wow...i go through the same thing...my friends talk down to gay people...one of my friends said if she had a daughter that was lez. she would disown her! *harsh*...and it made me even more scared to come out with my sexuality....wouldnt my friends love me for ME???
well during this process i just came to a conclusion...
"what the f*ck! im just going to enjoy life and i shouldn't care what people thought of me! if they can't accept me for me than they can kiss my a**"... [lol]
now that ive "kind of" came out i have tons of people coming up to me asking if i'm gay or bi!..i tell them "why does it matter?" and i just move on....
you shouldn't be worried about stereotypes! there will always be that one girl/guy who has to have an oppinion of everything! it's just best to shake it off...=]
ok i personally dont believe in "GAYDAR"...it's rediculous... but sometimes it's kind of obvious if someone is gay or lezbian.....but usually not....gay or bi or lezbians tell YOU if THEY'RE gay.....
just don't worry about what's going on around you all the time.. you'll have friends that wont judge you or put you in a certain *CATTEGORY* they will just accept you for you...and those are TRUE friends...
=]
your *friend* chelsea
2007-03-17 05:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by *CHELSEA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is troubling sometimes and confusing... If you choose to come out, then you find out who your true friends are when they stick by you through thick and thin. And the feeling of just wanting to break out and tell the world isn't uncommon... sometimes, just to lessen drama and what not, just tell a few people, that you know you can trust... And you're right, not all gay/bi people fit in the sterotype... I feel like I don't, but some people could still tell, just by getting to know me... Coming out and learning to deal with being gay/bi, even being closeted, take time, just test the waters. Take your time, and don't rush into anything. ^_^
2007-03-21 04:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by JG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While you will have to deal with this type of BS most of your life, a lot of it has to do with the fear of the unknown, things being against the social Norm we grew up with and what the Most Vocal say is Wrong. You are going to just have to find confidence in the Person you are - trying not to Label your own self.....Just be You - encompassing all of the "Labels" in society we give as YOU - NOT Gay, Straight, White, Black, Jerk, Slob...ect. Be Human, that's what's most important.
And in my own opinion while you may feel "bi" at this time, remember to be fair - switching back/forth can get very confusing but as I feel inside - You can't help who you Love but just don't get into the Games Most do.
2007-03-17 09:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people can tell with gaydar, but that usually uses those same stereotypes you dont like... some of your friends dont ask you if youre gay because they dont want to see it, so they make excuses as to why you dont have a girlfriend etc.
basically they dont see it because they dont want to
2007-03-17 10:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by lalalali 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's seldom easy being an invisible minority.
2007-03-17 09:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋