16 month relationship. states she is not happy with herself. if I ask any questions she says I make her feel guilty. I am not willing to go without making love for the rest of my life and she doesn't show any concern for my needs.
2007-03-17 01:00:20 · 17 answers · asked by val 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if shes not feeling good about herself YOUR needs better take a back seat...maybe your the reason why she doesnt feel good about herself? are you all snivly that YOUR needs arent being met? get over it you big baby..if you love her, help her...if your just too horny, let her go to find herslef a good man
2007-03-17 01:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by s p 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are countless reasons why her interest in sex has waned.
Either spend the next 20 years trying to go through them all and still come out the other side with her sex drive completely unchanged and you completely frustrated being in a sexless relationship, or learn the joys of beer, ESPN, and unsatisfying masturbation, or cut the losses for everyone and end it now.
Once a woman's sex drive for you changes, no amount of "spicing it up" will get it back. It's popular for people to say around here "oh I bought a dildo and a thong and my life has never been the same since" but it rarely rarely works that way. Women have tons of other sh*t on their minds and emotional plates besides sex and it is the first thing they toss overboard and the last thing they want back. It's how they are wired, buddy.
2007-03-17 03:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she is having severe problems such as depression, or something specific is bothering her terribly that she feels she can't bring up with you. Maybe she will go to the doctor with you or to a counselor. She has pulled away to where she isn't communicating with you and that can't hold up a long term relationship. Try to get her to tell you what's on her mind without appearing to be aggressive or domineering, maybe she'll open up. If she totally refuses to discuss the problem or see anyone for help about it, then you are out of options, I'm afraid.
2007-03-17 01:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she doesn't show any concerns for your needs...yet you are also not showing concerns for hers. Listen to her..what is she really saying. If she is bored, unhappy with herself, then tell her honestly, that you care for her and want to help her. If you don't care then leave and you can both be happy.
2007-03-17 01:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by graduate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing small, lovely things, like holding her hand, asking her how her day was, stroking her hair when you walk past, hugs without a sexual feel to them, bringing flowers every now and then, making dinner for you both, telling her a silly joke, smiling at her often, telling her the things you love about her, avoiding any critism etc....
Women often have a need to feel intimacy in their relationships and when they do, sex is a natural and fabulous progression.
Give it a go, it might help. :-)
2007-03-17 01:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Claudia G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she wants her space. Give her some time and distance. You may be coming too obsessed with her. She may not be happy with your relationship and the sooner you find out the better.
2007-03-17 01:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps half the problem is that you are primarily concerned with YOUR needs.
If you're serious - the suggest couple's therapy... if all you want is sex - buy a magazine and get some tissues.
2007-03-17 01:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by mel974 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were probably making her frustrated. Try to find out your sin of commission, most probably ommission.
2007-03-17 01:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how long she had another boyfriend. Open up your eyes buddy.
2007-03-17 04:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trade her in for one with a p u s s y that works.
2007-03-17 01:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋