I have a wife a kids for 28 happy years every thing is normal But I ask my wife for some fetish play xdress etc and she says no. I have a older women who xdress me for a fee NO SEX . is this a Bad thing?
2007-03-17 00:57:21 · 8 answers · asked by joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How could it possibly be a good thing? I think you already know it's a bad thing, so listen to your conscience. I think by asking this on Yahoo Answers, you are just looking for somebody who will make you feel better and justify what you are doing.
Going to another woman for sexual gratification is cheating no matter what the circumstances are. Even if your wife were a total ***** about this, it would not change the fact that you are cheating.
Look, I know nobody chooses their fetishes, and you can't just wish them away. You just have to focus hard on the things that your wife does give you. It's not going to mean that you'll stop being attracted to your fetish, but it will hopefully deepen your attraction to the alternative. Do whatever you need to do to make your wife your second fetish. She's got to be doing something right if you've stayed with her for 28 years. If this fetish is something you absolutely can not live without, then tell her. She deserves to know. Your sneaking about is shameful.
2007-03-17 02:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Nivk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is very bad it doesn't matter that there is no sex. Cheating is getting sexual gratification from any one other than spouse. Tell your wife you have very strong feelings about this and you need her to have an open mind. Then ask yourself is this fetish something worth leaving your wife over. If it is who you are and not just a curiosity and your wife refuses to have any part in it you will not stay compatible. I'm assuming that this is something new to you and more of a curiosity that you want to fulfill. If this is the case keep it a fantasy and live your life.
2007-03-17 01:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Trisha 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not a bad thing. I mean, how would you feel if she decided to go see a man about filling her needs sexually or emotionally instead of being with you? I'm sure you'd be down with that too.
Yes, men, it's fine to cheat on your wife of 28 years if she doesn't want to dress you up in a diaper or some other crazy fetish.
GROW UP.
2007-03-17 01:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by icequeen_ah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that depends on whether you have expressed how important this is to you, to your wife. Is she aware that this is something you feel you "need" rather than something you wish to indulge in? Perhaps if she was aware of your intentions she would re think, but be aware it may be fear or ignorance that is stopping her at present, she may not know exactly what it is you want and so has said no, you may need to educate her. I would not condone following through with your plan until you have explored all avenues with your wife, including telling her of your intentions, asking her to believe no sex is involved will be very difficult for her to believe, but doing this behind her back is a sure recipie for disaster,
2007-03-17 01:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's bad. It's still cheating because you're taking attention from your wife and giving it to someone who easily pleases you. Which is easy and convenient since this older woman doesn't have to do your laundry or take care of you or your kids when they are sick and smelly.
Grow up.
2007-03-17 01:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Venita Peyton 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no well its okey but mr. y ur wife/....its not good to put ur wife in fetish...but yeah u can if u dont care of her...coz in fetish u do sex or no its in sex catogary
2007-03-17 01:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by nick_william2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like your scratching an itch... it feels stable yet nevertheless an itch... you in basic terms prefer to scratch it. the main deadly area is that it will circulate extra suitable than in basic terms footsie. its fairly beside the point for a married guy, even in the journey that your spouse thinks its ok. in case you dont prefer to be caught up in a sticky subject, you ought to in basic terms play footsie which comprise your wifey, no longer people.
2016-10-02 06:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's the same thing as cheating.
2007-03-17 01:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋