I've noticed that all my friends are all younger than me. Is there some psychological explanation for this? As far as I can remember I have always had friends that were younger than me and never any older than me. I'd really like to know why, there's nothing bad about it, I'm just curious. Here's some info that might shed some light on it:
-I'm an 18 year old guy
-I'm friends with people as young as 10
-I would never EVER do anything that would hurt the young ones
-I'm the oldest in my family
-I have a completely broken relationship with my own siblings (I can actually say that i hate them)
-I'm many people's "older brother"
If anybody can help me shed some light on this I would really appreciate that. If you have any further things that you'd need to know just say so and I'll post additional details. I'd prefer info from real psychologists but if anybody else knows something about this, please do share.
Thanks!!!
2007-03-17 00:51:03 · 4 answers · asked by World of Suffering 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, I was not molested. I have been struggling with depression for several years and self mutilation at one point but I'm over that now. The cause for the depression was my father who was a prick and never cared about any of us.
2007-03-17 01:01:44 · update #1
Based on the information you've provided, it is my belief that you are compensating for the love lost from your father. That is, because your father did not give you the attention and because of the hurt you felt and still feel, subconsciously you do not want this same pain inflicted on other youngsters. This is so deep seeded in you that you will go to great lengths to ensure their safetly and wellbeing. Should someone threaten their wellbeing (like an older person) then the same anger you feel for your father can emerge to protect them.
You understand so well what these children feel and how they think and how vulnerable they are and in turn are attracted to them so you befriend them.
You will find gratification in the field of helping young kids and similar professions.
You will make an excellent dad, especially to your sons.
2007-03-17 01:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Truth D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you trying to get a new younger sibling thru these 10 yr olds? is there no way you can resolve stuff with your own family? why do you hate them?( dont get me wrong, my adopted brother is a rat and a punk that uses my 82 r dad for alll hes got..i hate him, but if he ever tried to be human, id give him a chance..wouldnt trust him far as i could throw behind,since hes pulled knives on me etc.etc) your 18, maybe the siblings and you just need cooling off time? may i ask very personal question, please dont take offense, were you molested? that doesnt mean thats why you have younger friends, just a question...personally, i think you miss the relasionship you dont have with your siblingsso your trying to get the next best thing? good luck...
2007-03-17 07:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by s p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds simple enough. Because of your broken relationship with your own younger siblings, maybe you have an intrinsic need to play big brother to other kids. It's a great thing if you can become a mentor or role model for these kids and be their friend.
2007-03-17 07:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Wiseguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a physcologist. Perhaps you are compensating for the loss of closeness that you have not had with your siblings. Perhaps you like being a "leader" or mentor. Maybe you are socially insecure and you feel more comfortable around these young people. They are easily impressed. You probably already know which of these is true.
2007-03-17 08:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋