what would you tell or do for your wife if cooked,cleaned,wash clothes ,clean the yard,always made sure your needs was taken care of. in and out of the bedroom....she would just out of the blue ,tell you thank you just because?
2007-03-17 00:30:00 · 20 answers · asked by nobodyspeical00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband would probably say---I love you so much. But who are you? Better leave before my real wife gets home.
2007-03-24 20:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is best defined as a partnership. I have asked many long term couples what the secret to a lasting relationship is. They have uniformly answered - Individuality. Allowing the other person to be who they are and respecting them for it. Learning the art of compromise and placing respect above all else except communication. Now that the groundwork has been laid. The next step is to tackle your question. Some questions should be asked such as, why is the person doing all these things? If it is truly something that is enjoyed, then I would have to agree with previous answers. The role of the significant other in this situation is to share in the tasks. A task shared is a task halved and completed in half the time. Sharing or divvying up tasks is a sure fire way to make more time to spend together.
More importantly is appreciation, a "thank you" goes a long way, as does an "I love you" and an "I appreciate you". Surprises are not far behind. you could always write a coupon or a number of coupons such as "A 15 minute back rub" or "I will cook dinner tonight" that your partner could cash in on at any time. This actually heightens ones desire to do things they like to do, giving more time for cashing in on coupons and the like.
In short, appreciation and recognition are key, sharing in the chores necessary and validation of utmost importance.
I hope this helped out.
Mike
2007-03-17 08:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do all of these things for my husband, I only work 2 or 3 days a week and I feel like it is my job (since I am there, not b/c I'm the wife) to do these things. In return I get to shop or spend a day with friends and leave the kids with him when I need a break. It works out well. He appreciates the things that I do for him. He tells me that he appreciates them. And having him verbally tell me that he appreciates them makes me feel great. Letting me have some time off every now and then helps me to recharge so I want to come back and keep it up! And I get to run everything just how I want it to!
2007-03-17 18:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by mommyof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that to my husband. I was the ideal wife in that I nearly worshiped my husband and my goal was to make him happy. I made home cooked meals nearly every night, took great care of the kids, gave him space (at the bar), made his lunch, did his laundry, ran the house and was good to him sexually. He never met my needs. He never saw me as a person who was just as hungry for the same love and devotion that I gave him. He was at that time a truck driver and now I found out that he was very flirtatious to many women while I remained home, under "house arrest."
Men need to know that women are not only good for taking care of their husband's needs. Women have needs of their own and we are overlooked or degraded.
2007-03-17 09:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Eyed Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol... who knows, if all this was true at the same time i guess i would say thank you.... but since so much bullshit is always going on such as attitudes, when even part of the above is done why ******* bother.... and besides that.. most of the time my wife does not cook.... she is lucky if she cooks 4 meals total a week...the rest of the time i bring home food or i do the cooking .... which is not that often....its like she can't even get off her *** and go grocery shopping .... but she allways complains of how bored she is.... maybe if she actually did things like she says, then maybe she would not be so bored... and maybe i would tell her thank you more often...
2007-03-18 04:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wife is not a slave. I would be right along side you doing all the things you mentioned. It's called a partnership, two people serve each other. There is no room for selfishness in a marriage.
2007-03-17 07:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife would be treated like a queen placed on a pedastal and admired, loved and generally worshipped by me if this was done. In my love for her I would be likely to help her with these jobs so I could spend more time with her.
2007-03-17 07:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If there were anything I could undo in my life???? Meeting my wife is at the top of that list!!! I am getting divorced and I will never ever get married again!!!!EVER!!!When it comes to marriage I just assume I am not good at it and won't do it again.
2007-03-24 02:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm separated so i pop tv dinners in microwave oven and i clean my apt i don't cook much because my kids are grown
2007-03-20 21:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold up 2 tickets and tell her were going on a cruise to Hawaii.
2007-03-17 09:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋