I knew my marriage won't be happy as I wished when I was little. I loved him and willing to give him anything and always trust his words until I got pregnant, I found out he cheated on me. I married him bcus I didn't want my family to worry for me. I hope we could start everything over. He got $25,000 and told me I got 5000 in my pocket , he gave me 3000 and told me not to go over 5000."I don't want to touch my 25000, I'll save it". 3000 was really tight to plan my wedding. My mother and sis help me out and I felt so so bad. I promised myself I pay them back. After our wedding I asked him to pay my mother 1000 and my sis 500 he didn;t believe me " I gave you 3000 , that should be enough" I even spent my own money(1000) which given from my sisters to pay for the photographer and camcorder man. Now he;s not treating me as his wife. Poor my 6 mon old daughter, I don't care about myself, I just want the best for my baby.
2007-03-17 00:06:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
None of us get the life we dreamed of.
Don't stay with a jerk just because you don't want your family to worry.
When I met my wife, she was dirt poor. She had two tiny kids from her previous relationship. I was a poor student myself.
It is 12 years later. We have been married for 8 years, we have great jobs, a big beautiful house, and a wonderful stable family. The kids have a better life than we ever dreamed.
You can build whatever kind of life you want. Don't depend on others to do it. YOU do it. You can do it.
2007-03-17 00:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that. You shouldn't have married such a jerk in the first place.
Anyways, you should just try to stand on your own two feet and get away from him if he is not going to change. If you haven't done so yet, get a proper education and make things happen. Don't wait for somebody else to pull you out of the current situation, you have to do it for yourself and for your daughter. Crawl, dig and pull. When you are out of that whole, you will be smiling from ear to ear and be on top of the world then.
Wish you all the best.
2007-03-17 00:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by The Great One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have married a man with different views then you. I only spent 2500 dollars on my wedding but that was what i wanted and i kept it very simple, I too would have saved a large lump sum of money maybe for a house or a future for my children but I seems like your problem are more then just the money he seems like he is to be in charge of your life and you don't like it which i can't blame you get out and be indepentant for you and your daughter
2007-03-17 00:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think as long as you provide for her the best you can, there is nothing wrong with that. Everybody always says they want to give their children the life they never had. You dont need money for that! In fact you ARE giving her the life you never had, she will experience many things you never did, and will not experience many things YOU did, be it good or bad. I say, do the best you can, and theres nothing to regret!! Hope this helps! Sorry to hear about the hubby
2007-03-17 00:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by fumarlamota 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are you doing grab your baby and do whats right leave him well and truly behind and give your child the best possible start and gift in life give her a chance to have the life you dream of do your best there is no correct way to parent a child just do what u feel is right and remember that there is one little person who relies on your decisions totally so forget him and do what worksfor you and your baby.
2007-03-17 00:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by kaceek21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother u have done well......u are not selfish and u not seeking revenge. Do the best for little gal and for yourself. Self pity is not an option. walk with ur head high, don't look at wat u r goin through look at the light at the end of the tunnel. You will be alright.....God has a plan for ur life and you daughter.do ur best and u won't be disappointed.
2007-03-17 00:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise Mom and sis you'd pay them back.....but, you meant hubby pays them back..........
Sounds like everything you're doing you're doing for the wrong reason
"Knew wouldn't be happily married"
"Marry so family don't worry"
2007-03-17 00:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married to him.....the vow's you took are serious.....more so than the money you though you were intitled too. You need to WORK at it. Running is why we have so many divorces!
2007-03-17 00:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by meemadee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD has LOANED YOU his GREATEST GIFT---you will be just fine as a MOM, but a word of CAUTION, DON'T push your dreams off on the CHILD, SHE WILL HAVE PLENTY OF HER OWN-----GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BABY!!!!
2007-03-17 00:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Billie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋