I just want an opinion. Thanks.
Let me start off my saying I'm 17, a junior in high school.
I'll be introducing my weak side first.
I'm usually not nervous about talking to my friends even though most of them are girls but when they ask me out to a type of dance or prom as friends, I get so hesitant and back off. I just keep saying to myself can I even dance? I can't even explain how nervous I am if I were to ask a girl out or even talking to her, I just think I would hurt her in a way if I even attempt to ask. Usually when I get nervous and being in the "put on the spotlight" situation, I don't take it very well. I just do whatever to get out of that situation as fast as possible.
My stronger side. I'm rank 60 in my entire class out of I think 540. I have a 3.43 academic GPA and plan to go to college. I'm good with computers for the most part and plan to major in computer engineering in college.
I want to have a relationship and all but what can I do to improve myself?
2007-03-16 23:57:16 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like a geek..stop playiong with computers and start playing with the girls...you wont be shy then.
2007-03-24 02:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you want an opinion... so I think you are a generally confident guy, shy in situations where you don't know how to act or what to do, you seem self-conscious when it comes to relationships with girls other than friends and you are more comfortable with the "just friends" situation. You seem very intelligent, hard-working and you have loads of ambition. I think that to improve just ask girls out in a group as friends where there is less "one-on-one" time and practise for those times when you will be alone with them. Practise talking with them, find things to say and get comfortable. But hey it is totally normal the way you are acting! So thats what I think sweetie and I think you already know everything that I have told you.
2007-03-24 23:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, relax, you don't have to change at all.
Everyone has strong points and stuff that they think could use a little work. You're still soo young, and its no wonder that you're nervous. Isn't everybody nervous about relationships at your age? I know it sounds cliche, but it is true. Be yourself. I tried to be different and something I am not for various guys, and it didn't work. When I stopped trying, I met someone who loves me exactly as I am.
When you are with someone who loves you for who you are, then you don't have any pretenses, and the relationship is easy, and fun.
Just be kind, friendly, be yourself, and relax! It will happen! You will find a girl who loves everything about you, even those things you're not so sure you like.
Good luck :)
2007-03-17 00:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need to change a thing. You sound like a smart, nice young man. You are like many of us who don't want to be in the spotlight. Just be yourself. After all, you are only 17. Concentrate right now on your education. You have plenty of time for play. She will be there, when you least expect it....
2007-03-24 23:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, your soooo cute! Take some dance lessons most hootchies your age can't dance they only think they can and all they know how to do is grind and scrub the ground. All you gotta do is put their butt to your crotch and stand there that's it your dancing. Baby all you need is confidence. Fake it, after a while you'll be a natural with it.
2007-03-24 16:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by RoxanneZG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all look at how much negative you wrote about yourself, compared to how much positive... big difference there... it should be the other way around... you need to gain some self confidence. concentrate more on whats good about you and less on what is not... as long as you are confident in yourself, and honest with everyone around you... those are two very admirable qualities in a man... good luck.
2007-03-24 19:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT TAKE YOUR CHANCES AND BREATH AS YOU ASK THIS GIRL OUT A FRIEND OF MINE MET HIS GIRLFRIEND AT THE TIME OUT LIKE THIS "HEY GIRL CAN I GET YA NUMBER CAUSE YOU LOOK GRRRRRRREEEEAT" (LIKE THE FROSTED FLAKES COMMERCIAL) AND SHE FOUND IT FUNNY THAT WAS IN 97 AND TILL THIS DAY THERE STILL TOGETHER BUT ONLY MARRIED NOW BASICALLY FROM HIM BEING HIMSELF AND HAVING A SENSE OF HUMOR HE BAGGED HIS PRIZE SO DO THE SAME BE YOURSELF AND DON'T GET SO OVER EXCITED
2007-03-24 20:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by BUBBLES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear,
just remember the time u r lossing 4m ur life will never come back. after 40-45 yr when i will turn back and look then u will realize " oh god i missed"
be ur self and enjoy ur life. have trust on urself and take every step confidently. good to hear that ur academic side is strong'Keep it up'
2007-03-17 00:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by soni 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Chill out that's just you who cares if you can't dance they will have fun watching you try and forget relationship.
2007-03-24 19:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all signs are positive
all your problem are temporary and soon you urself would get over it with out help
you should just keep freindly terms as you have now with your freinds
may be start getting involved in group activities
2007-03-17 00:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋