Is this type of discussion and thoughts, typical for a young, new and LD relationship? Is our relationship already going downhill? Is the relationship just based on lust? serious answers please.
2007-03-16 23:54:17 · 21 answers · asked by unwritten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop writing that stuff and see what happens...That person is using you....
2007-03-16 23:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a ld boyfriend...going on 7 years. The sex is mind blowing because of the pent up lust and flirting that happens when we talk in between visits. But at the end of the day you will spend a lot more talking about issues, dreams, opinions and ideas then you will ever have doing the deed. I have found the great real talks makes the sex better. Sounds like a case of the lusts, but give it a little time and try a real email or conversation or two and see where it goes, then you need to decide if he is a bf or a bed buddy, neither of which is wrong as long as you are realistic.
2007-03-16 23:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As you are involved in a long distance relationship, it is said distance makes heart grow fonder, well its just a saying and it may be true but not necessarily all the times.Sex is important in a relationship but the emotional attachement is also important to sustain a realationship that too L.D. You are young and its a new relationship budding, you are going to discuss all things includin sex, but discussing only sex all the times can become a little sporadic, maybe both of you only want a relationship with only sex, and nothing else, or it can be that you want an emotional involvement and he does not. reasons can be unlimited, its upto you to decide where or what stand do u want your relationship to take. Are you serious about your relationship to him or do you want only to have a fling, the course of this relationship depends a lot on what you feel about your relationship? what do you want from it?lust or love? and last but not the least take action dont delay it since you have to consider other persons feelings. cheers!!!
2007-03-17 00:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by ruchika p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depending on how old the two of you are, and how many relationships you've had can determine that answer. If both of you have been in several relationships and both have been physically active in the past then sex plays a major role in your relationship. It would be another issue if the two of you spent physical time together and he still craved it, but the two of you have space between each other which can have the effect of "you want what you can't have". The two of you are emotionally connected but the fact that you are so far apart may cause the mind to go crazy because you can't reach out and touch each other whenever you want. I wouldn't worry about it too much, just make sure that the two of you have other things in common and that you can have a full conversation without the word "sex" in it.
2007-03-17 00:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery_Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty normal and believe me you don't have to be young to behave like that.However all you really have then is a relationship based on sex if that is the total sum of your conversations.How can it be anything else?
If you slept with this person when you met and you know little else about them it probably is based on lust.You had a great experience with that person and now you are deprived of it.
If this is the case why bother with the relationship.When you are young it is very easy to confuse LUST with LOVE.It takes a long time to REALLY get to know someone.
On the other hand most rels start with lust and develop into love.Odds are not in your favour to be successful having LD in the first place.
Now based on what I've said ask yorself......
How impotant is this person in your life?
How well do you really know them?
By engaging in a LD rel am I cutting myself off from the possibility of meeting somone else?
What is the cost to me?
2007-03-17 00:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by strings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it a relationship. It's just sex and talks... it seems as if you started from a wrong angle... did you already have sex? If so then it appears that was much too soon. Try to talk about something else, even try to avoid topics concerned with sex, if this doesn't work then the answer to your question is yes.
2007-03-17 00:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by kamqx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the subject of sex is always the focal point of ur converstion, and nothing more than that, then i would definitley say that yep lust is exactly what he's looking for, and i'd get on with my and leave the loser behind life is too short so as it is, so start living and find someone that shares ur same interests there is always time for sex
2007-03-17 00:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by neici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These type of relation ships and love through internet depends upon the speed of internet
please do not believe in these things it is a time wasting proposal
2007-03-16 23:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by sudha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-mail, long-distance sex is just worthless don't you think? Not only do you not get to actually touch each other but now there isn't anything else going on either. I don't think it's going to last, but you can give it one last try by directing your own conversations to other topics and see if he picks up the ball. If he doesn't respond to anything non-sexual, just drop it, it's too shallow.
2007-03-16 23:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is OK! You worry about things you shouldn't! The problem is not the discussions nature is the "LD".
2007-03-17 00:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by filip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its going down, i think wat is happening in ur case is that probably that is the only thing you have shared together.......no bad times or good time to look back on and reflect. Or the other possible reason for ur constant talk about sex in ur emails is u both don't want ur partner to mess abt. Another way of expressing ur feelings.
2007-03-17 00:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋