its been 4 yrs of marriage that he s not had physical contact with me how can divert himself to me without saying through the mouth ???
2007-03-16 23:28:03 · 29 answers · asked by preeti 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow, that's strange.
I think it would actually be best if you talked about it with him. Sexual Intercourse is a big issue in marriage.
He's your husband, talk to him!
2007-03-16 23:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty odd if after only 4 years of marriage you have to practically beg for it. I would keep a close eye out for him and make sure he isn't up to anything that will devastate you. A man has needs just as much as a woman does so if he hasn't climb all over you within 4 years then there maybe something wrong. Talk to him about how he feels about you when it comes to sex. See if there is something different and exciting you two can do together. You have to talk to him other wise he won't have a clue how you feel right now. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out.
2007-03-17 01:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
4yrs. wow well I would tell you to seduce him...but you don't even dare speak to him about what is going on in your love life. 4yrs..wow I can understand 4months but years.. I believe it's over for you too. He must be having sex with someone else. It's time for you to go out and get a lover. Or divorce. If you have kids together and he's a good father I say get a lover. now that I see some of the answers I didn't know you meant bj's. No way in hell if I were you what he don't give you, one doesn't give.
2007-03-16 23:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not everyone is as in tune with their sexuality as others. This is a challenge for a counselor who specializes in this. There are lots out there. Sometimes it's just a fear that got attached to sexual feelings in the past that now haunt him. But four years is way too long to go without sex in a marriage. If he won't go to counseling with you, you go alone. Eventually he will go along with you. If this does not happen fairly quickly, he won't change, and you must move on with your life.
2007-03-16 23:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very personal issue - you don't say how old you are and whether your husband has health problems. I have a friend how has not had sex with her husband for several years - they are very happy and loving but it is not a problem for them so that is fine. They are only 40!. You need to talk to your husband and find out the reasons he feels like this as clearly, it is making you unhappy. Be gentle though, don't forget the male ego!
2007-03-16 23:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bexs 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Better to just sit down and have an honest chat, ask why, does he have another woman? is he gay, has he fallen out of love, does he have a problem with labido?
You gotta talk.
On a lighter note....i always run towards sex but still never get any, keep smiling you can sort it as a team.
2007-03-16 23:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by just-dave 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check his outside activities, may be involved with some one else, He should not be a gay or homosexual etc.
You seems to me too lenient and soft with him, as without saying anything from your mouth, you cannot realise him that how he is not giving you what is your right and he is obliged to.
Make his life difficult, some people don't think it wrong unless someone tell them that what wrong they are doing.
2007-03-16 23:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
From looking at youother questions your either making this up, or have a boyfriend on the side. Maybe your husband doesn't like the fact you have a boyfriend!
2007-03-17 00:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by shaz 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Next time he is out check the local men's public toilets!
2007-03-20 09:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by ANDREW J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you let it go for this long?? 4 years??
show him by action...
first peck on a cheek..then to a kiss..
give him a pat on the shoulder..moving on to cuddles...spooning...
sounds like communication problems..first thing first is to sort out your communication problem...why doesnt he want to?? what's bothering him?? self esteem?? not measuring up? work?? life?? family in general?? must be something that is bothering him???
when you have let it go for so long may be he's afraid of sex?? afraid of him not able to perform?
2007-03-16 23:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by dewdrops 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
something is very wrong with that. i mean, yeah men love it when women give them bj, but there is seriously something wrong when your husband doesn't want the whole kit n caboodle.
think of it this way: like in soccer... bj are like getting a goal, but sex is like winning the game!
you need to talk to your husband and ask him what's going on.
2007-03-16 23:34:24 · answer #11 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋