I think past experiences are recking my trust . I cant seem to get over it .why ? being cheated on ,seeing others cheating . I see it as rejection. It breaks my heart to see infidelity anywhere.as far as i know hes never cheated on anyone.
2007-03-16 23:22:51 · 11 answers · asked by libby e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your lack of trust could ruin the relationship, try to work that out with yourself or a therapist.
2007-03-16 23:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a hard one, so hard to gain so easy to loose. The thing you need to remember is that your husband is not any of your former partners, and by judging him on other peoples actions you are not being fair. Everyone is different. If your husband did not want to be with you then he wouldnt have married you? wouldnt be coming home to you, wouldnt be doing the special things that people do in relationships. Stand back and look at it, these are your issues and if you dont over come them you will kill the relationship. People do cheat, some people like myself would never do that. What you have is special to the two of you, enjoy it, enjoy each other and keep in mind you are togther becasue you want to be. Most importanly of all TALK, good commincation tell your partner how you feel and listen to him, keep good clear lines of communication open, and work through this.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
2007-03-17 07:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you can't get over it. I do know that jealousy is one of the quickest ways to ruin a relationship, married or not. You need to go see a therapist e.g. psychologist, or marriage counselor.. If it has already started problems in your marriage, talk to your husband about your feelings and be completely honest with him. Years ago I married a man who was jealous and didn't trust me, he was always accusing me of things I wasn't doing. All it did was make me want to get away from him, It was horrible. I finally found out why...He was the one cheating on me! I never had a clue. It ruined our marriage, because after that, I didn't trust him and he still was accusing me of doing what he was guilty of. It nearly made me crazy. I hope my experience will help you get on the right track with your hubby. If you can't trust, you can't love., and worse, you will probably drive him away. Talk to him. It can't hurt!
Good luck.
2007-03-17 07:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by CAT LADY LOO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to write down why he would never cheat on you. Then you can read it and Analise it without him in the room. Then later ask him what he wrote down. If they don't match he may be wishy washy on the subject. Does he go to bars with friends? No matter. Just ask him what he does when he gets too drunk. Does he flirt or just get tired n quiet? Oh and keep poking him regularly even if you don't feel like it, so he can look forward to it when he gets home from work ;-)
2007-03-17 06:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by mark [mjimih] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think it's just one of the hard periods in your life with him
but it'll end and everything will be okay
you're just married and you never lived before so close
however if you'll found out that he cheated on you - make conclusions
2007-03-17 06:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont trust him yet and you are already married then you are in a dilemma! you search psychological support and that's healthy or else you'd face him with your fears and that'smuch more healthier to settle your life up!
2007-03-17 06:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give hime a chance. Don't jump to conclutions. Or at least let the man slip up before you start distrusting him.
2007-03-17 06:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Robin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest and open with him and let him know of your fears and their origins.
Communication is the key, cant do it? Get couple therapy, the faster you learn to talk to him, the lesser problems you will have.
2007-03-17 06:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by inlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may well be married; but if you haven't got trust, that's just a piece of paper!
2007-03-17 12:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by maureen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is just follow your heart. if you really love him/her give him/her another chance if not tell him what's going and and maybe he/she might understand it and end up your problems and live happily ever after. that's all. GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-17 06:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by eartha_yu18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋