I've had one date. There's only a small handful of females my age I can actually have a good conversation with (coworkers and a couple at school). They are all either taken or not into me. I can't have a normal conversation with people I just met because I get quite nervouse and stutter. Only when I'm forced to be around people do I get comfortable with them. How do I get over this and meet girls. I've only been on one date and it was odd because she was HOT and totally into me one second, then just wanting to be friends the next. (another guy got her pregnant b4 we went out, and she found out)
2007-03-16 23:09:20 · 5 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't drink cuz i'm only 20 and not into that kind of stuff
2007-03-16 23:15:12 · update #1
I am the same way. very shy around girls and can't talk to 1 if my life depended on it. So all u have to do is take a deep breath before u go out to talk to her and clear ur mind of everything. Then if this doesn't work, I had to join a sport. If u r good enough, it will make the girls come to u and start talking to u so u have to talk back. Then they r automaticly interested. Good luck man
2007-03-17 00:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Snow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a few easy things to get to know people in social settings and start taking risks, it's the only way you'll get out the door. The first thing you need to learn is rejection won't kill you, and it's not high school, asking out some girl and her saying no won't make you the ridicule of your immediate peers.
Fortune favors the bold and girls love confidence. To build it just get used to talking to new people. Join study groups that meet outside of the classroom (ie in Coffee Shops, parks), join a school club that interests you (you'll also find this a great place to find similar people) if you're a college of any size you probably have 400 clubs on campus. If you're religious attend your church/temple/etc and find the Young Adults group, they'll break you out of a shell super fast.
You can also try other things, take a summer job that is going to extend you socially instead of professionally. Good example are Summer Camps where human interaction is a crux. You shouldn't have to intern every summer of your life, enjoy one outside, playing with kids and working with people your age outside of a real world, broke my shell completely.
Take a class outside of your comfort zone that will force you to expand your horizons. Public Speaking is a good example and so is Sex Education. College level sex ed can be quite eye opening.
I'm not saying you need to change, I'm just suggesting ways to be become more comfortable. And if social interaction is overbearing, you may even want to seek professional/medical help to see about it.
2007-03-16 23:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cashew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a few drinks to loosen up before you go out on a date
2007-03-16 23:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hand them a note saying "If you are interested in knowing me, shake your head yes or no"
2007-03-16 23:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask from that guy.who made her pregnent.
2007-03-16 23:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by mast_kumar2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋