I recently just got back with my ex. He really messed up in the past (cheated on me, disrespected my feelings in front of people, lied, told people he never wanted to be with me and it was always me chasing him etc etc)and only realised that he wanted me back after i started seeing this other guy. The current situation is that i broke up with the boyfriend and now am back with my ex. He is being the sweetest guy to me, doing and saying the right things and being the guy I always wanted. However, he does not want us to tell people that we are together and does not want us to be seen in public together.... basically at parties. He rather just chill with me alone and dine me out. Is there something to it? Should I be worried??
2007-03-16 22:28:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop right there! This guy is a total loser. No man who really loves you wants to keep you hidden and how can you go back to something that has obiously done you so much damage. Get a backbone and break this off for good. Stop this history now and just take a break from men for a while if that is what it takes to get your sight adjusted and find a better man. I have seen so many girls start out with a bad relationship and just keep going from one loser to the next because they let themselves become needy instead of strong. I am happily married so I understand a good husband is absolutely wonderful but I have seen it's much better to be single and alone than to be in a destructive relationship with anyone. Be strong - Take care of yourself now before he finds "fresh meat" to drop you for again.
2007-03-16 22:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be...hes prolly up to his old tricks. I had this one boyfriend Steven. GRAH HES A PISS OFF. See what happened was the only time we hung out was at my place and then one time at school. Even though him and I where in the same math class he never talked to me there even when he sat beside me. I later found out he cheated on me. He told me he was sorry and that for calling me every name in the book and that hes grown up A LOT which he has. But it sounds to me like your boyfriend is still cheating on you. If a guy takes you out to dinner its usually one of three things.
1) Break Up
2) He's done sumthing wrong
3) Proposal!
2007-03-17 05:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by angel5469ca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd be worried. My theory is that he wants to explore being with you, but without the social ties. That way if things don't work, HE can be the one to walk away now and leave YOU. Just a guess, but be wary.
2007-03-17 05:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sam84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you have fallen for the oldest trick in the book for a user, abuser, controller, liar, cheater and all that is wrong and bad in a guy like this..
do you really expect him to not take you back and controll you some more and all the rest later? its already happening and I for one think you know it already. you just want validated on your gut female instincts...and they are right on
yeah he is keeping you in control and in his sites bc he does not want you to talk to or make nice with other guys or maybe people in general bc they know other guys whio want to know and talk to you, and this is only the insecure controlling part..
the rest will come again later
RUN...RUN as fast as you can to your family or a friend and stay away from this one
my opinion
2007-03-17 05:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is something he is hiding from you if he doesnt want people to know about your relationship! it will possibly not end up in marriage but will fail again along the way.u made a mistake to hook up with him again! he wants to be with u again coz he has no potion,when he gets someone better,....of u go!
2007-03-17 05:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by freekirabo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know for sure but it sounds like he is trying to keep you hidden from other people because he might not want the other woman in his life to know about you and you - her.
2007-03-17 05:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG.....don't do it. He should be happy you are giving him a second chance. You shouldn't hide your new relationship....if you guys are starting over....what's the cover up for
2007-03-17 05:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
red alert... can't u see the sign? if one man is really into u, then he should be proud of you. not hiding u from public... just leave it all girl, he doesn't deserve u... been there, done that...
2007-03-17 06:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by kish-kish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be worried. He is clearly keeping his options wide open.
2007-03-17 05:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out - You deserve so much more -
2007-03-17 05:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋