I am afraid that I will never again find the Love that I once had, How can I overcome this pain?

Answer 1

love is not something we acquire as a merchandise. it's a feeling that we always have to live with. no matter if people disappoint or hurt us, that happens many times when we're open to the others, love won't fall apart, if it is a genuine feeling.
trying to find that 'perfect love' that causes no sorrow, it'll only bring us disappointment. it's like we'd expect people to be perfect.
after we have lost the person we once loved , we start worshipping that person and remember only the nice moments spent together.
if you stop looking for the ideal love, you'll be able to find the right person for you.

Answer 2

you can never really totally overcome pain like that, its always with you, or at least the memories about the times you had and all of that type of stuff. basically you just have to try to think about other things and focus your energy on your health and work or school or whatever it is that you are doing. the more that you let it affect you, the harder it will be to move on. i suggest going for a walk or something that clears your head, catch up with friends more often and basicaly just stay clear of wanting a relationship for a while. yes it will tale a while but you will get there in the end and it will be hard nut all wiorht it.

Answer 3

YOU WILL find love again. Please don't give in to your pain. You can overcome it. The pain can seem SO unbearable and unrelenting, but I promise you, time will make it better. You had a wonderful thing. I'm not sure why you are without your love but be strong and continue on. Hold on to your memories and grow into the new man you are supposed to be now. Life is about change, constant, ever flowing, ever happening change. Nothing is always as we want it to be but it can be good again. Would the one who loved you want you to suffer today? Go on. Find a therapist to talk to. Find anyone to talk to. DONT ISOLATE YOURSELF. You need to let your pain out and talk this stuff out. Its the most important part of your healing and beginning again.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Losing a partner is statistically the most tense thing one can go through so dont fight the pain let it flow out of your system and look to the future

if possible seek psychological counselling - CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) and group therapy has proven to be excellent in cases like yours

the love that you lost was probably never yours to start with so let it go and find a better future with more happiness with you remember you can only be responsible for your own behaviour and not others

good luck

Answer 5

I feel your pain my friend but please take hope from my brief story. I met a woman she was about 8 years older than me, we clicked straight way and i got completely infatuated with her and fell in love, she was even going through a divorce and had children. I embraced all of this but she had more problems and made my life a misery and broke my heart. I couldnt believe this had happened but through that pain and rain I met someone else and I didnt know what had hit me, I had to be careful to make sure it wasnt any rebound, but it definately wasnt, it was something new and very special and it happened just when I least expected and never thought it could happen, and now were planning our wedding. There is always hope and where there is hope there will be love, just dont try too hard to find it, it will find you. Take Care.

Answer 6

By just remembering the good things that happened ,and let me tell you even better is to come.You know how it is when we are young and we say if I could only have that........ I would not want anything else but something else always comes along . If you had found perfect love that was two way perhaps you would not be asking this.
So have faith and you will find love again xx

Answer 7

Rob, this is wrong and right at the same time. I will not say that finding the same previous love with its same circumstances would repeat again but it can take place with other unexpected coinsidences that may support you afterwards.
what you said is right in the sense of it was great and precious love and its memory would be craved in the mind till death.
Again what you said is not that accurate in the sense that love's spirit is never dying - bodies only - so the valuable spirit that you lost somehow will find its way to you.

Just believe in it and will happen sooner or later.

Best wishes..

Answer 8

If you really misses her just go for it again. I hope you have broke up due to some compromise issue. So if you believe that you can do that compromise go for it. But you have to make sure that the love you had is still available. Otherwise all your efforts will go in vain. This time commit yourself if she is still alone.

If she is with some one else, then you have to move on with your life. Just try and enjoy the life with your friends. If you only keep on thinking abt the love you lost, you will ended up in no mans land. So make it a learning experience. Dont worry, you will find your true love. Just be confident and move on with your life.

ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!

Answer 9

now why would you want that love back if it hurt?
You will find love and it will be better than the last and you will be blissfully happy. So now you know this you can start to overcome the the painful love of the past.
Peace n love

Answer 10

First, recognize that you have a choice: you can decide that you do not like the pain and stop giving it focus. use the experience to help shape your world view. now that you know the pain, you can avoid it in the future.

don't worry about finding another love. there are plenty of opportunities, which you may even like better!