So several of my friends and I have made a pact not to lose our virginity until we're married or have found the perfect guy for us. Well I'm the last one left and feel like a fool. I'm going to be twenty and I haven't even done anything with a guy. I took the pact too seriously and now I just feel awkward on the subject. I have a lot of guy friends but I feel like I'm never going to have a boyfriend I can be intimate with. It messed me up psychologically and for what ever reason I think I may die a virgin. I don't want to just give it up to any guy. Should I just continue with the pact and wait for that 'special someone' or what? I need some advice and more so from the girls perspective.
2007-03-16 22:01:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could become a whole lot more psychologically messed up by giving it to the wrong guy. You should be applauding yourself! You are no pushover and haven't let yourself be used. There is no need to do something just because its the 'popular' thing to do. And you could be an inspiration to all these 'babies' (12-14 year olds) that are thinking they should have sex. They need role models desperately! Be proud of who you are. There are many girls out there that wish they would have waited (whether they admit it or not).
2007-03-16 22:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, saving your virginity is a good thing, don't feel a fool for being the last one.. no, no... Just let somthing like losing your virginity be natual don't plan it, because when you actually lose it you will remember that day for ever... So, don't rush into it, take your time and enjoy your youth.... Also your still young date around and make sure you find the right guy to marry and give it too.. Doesn't matter when you lose it, just a matter of that special moment.. good luck
2007-03-16 22:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Rain L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right guy. How are all your friends doing now? are they all in happy relationships? or do they feel they gave it up to whomever?
I think there is nothing wrong with waiting, i think its great , you dont have to wait until marriage just wait until your ready. I waited until i was 21, but i knew he was the "one" and thats what i needed.
You oviously seem like you care enough for your own reasons and not just for the reasons of the pact, it seems important to you as well, and for that reason i would just wait for the one.
Maybe you could be more open, and start exploring some things sexual, but you dont have to go all the way.
If what you want is to give it to the right one, then wait for him.
2007-03-16 22:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask what your sex life has to do with any of your friends? You are a grown woman now so go and do your own thing! Take it from me, I am 21 and have not been with another guy since I was 14. (I was a rebelious teen, what can I say!) As soon as I hit 20 I was like, WTF, my teenage yrs have gone and I have not had any of the same experiences as others my own age. I now have a mortgage, 2 children and a fab job but I also have regrets. It's your life so do what your feel right doing but make it all count xx
2007-03-16 22:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell ya from personal experience; its not a great idea to just give it up to whoevers making ya feel randy at the time. youll most likely regret it. i hated my first time. and most of those after. now that i am with my soulmate; its absolutely amazing. i wish i had waited; maybe not for my husband to be; but at least someone i knew wasnt just after a bootycall. if guys know ur the last in the pact; theyll be on ya like dogs in heat so be careful who you choose. make sure its someone you trust to take this wonderful gift that youll never be able to give to anyone else ever again.
2007-03-16 22:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by the_syco_t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the last one left,then you are no longer in a pact with your friends. This is truely a once in a lifetime decision. Choose wisely...until then, wait.
2007-03-16 22:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by JeffreyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What gender are you? You, technically, lose your virginity even as your hymen (somewhat of dermis masking the hollow of the vagina) is torn with assistance from vaginal sex. If youre a chick, it extremely is. i believe a guy losses his virginity even as he places his penis into both an anus or a vagina.
2016-11-26 01:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take things really slow when you do hook up with a guy.
2007-03-16 22:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wan to give it to the right one then jus wait for him.
2007-03-16 22:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋