Someone I loved for 6 months hurt me very much by telling me he did not want me to contact him again and that we have nothing in common. Since he said that I feel a huge void inside me, an emptiness, like I cannot feel anything, whether sadness or not where he is concerned now. Is this normal? Am I in shock and suddenly all the pain will start flooding in? I am finding it hard to feel anything for him at the moment...I feel numb...
2007-03-16 21:54:41 · 17 answers · asked by SK 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
To answer your question - yes you prob are in a sort of emotional shock.
You will prob be getting lots of advice and sympathy from your friends which will help you initially although once they stop and you have time to think you will start to feel again.
Live it - its normal. Its what makes us human. Don't let it put you off love. You need to feel the pain to appreciate the good in relationships.
I hope it doesn't take you too long to get over him and you find your soulmate ... there is one out there for you.
Good Luck xo
2007-03-16 22:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Charm 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think you are in shock. The numbness you have is your body's way of stopping you from feeling too much pain. Eventually the numbness will lessen and your emotions will come flooding through.
It is always hard when you lose someone who is special to you whether it be through a break up or death. You need to take each day as it comes and accept each emotion as it appears. Talk to your friends and family and let them know how you are feeling it will help you.
Don't rush into another relationship you need to be able to cope with the loss of this person and feel happier in yourself before you can try to move on.
Hope this helps and I wish you all the best
:-)))
2007-03-17 07:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Teejay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No shock is when you are in a terriable accident, or relationship, or beaten, and you are really cold to the touch, and you feel cold, and if you are not treated , and keapt warm, you will died, within a short time. Now you may be depressed, or wondering why he did that to you. You are depressed i would say, and you proably are having a hard time like a lot of people do believing that they could actually say that to you. The pain, is the feelings you are feeling , the hurt, the betrail. I would suggest that you go and see an therapist and talk to them about how you feel, and what is going on in your life. You will find that will help in the long run. So why not do it now before you do not ever want to get into another relationship, cause you get a fear of getting hurt again. Then you will have another problem that you will need to work on. So please seek out some help, so you can get on with your life.
2007-03-17 05:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hurting but the fact is that we evolve with time. Times change and so do relationships. The world is full of interesting people and opportunities. Try to put your attention to things you enjoy, such as your hobbies, friends and family members. Go out and do something good without expecting anything in return, You may even start acquiring a new skill such as playing Tabla.
Gatasyam Shokah Nasti (Don't worry about what is gone)
Good Luck
2007-03-17 10:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Smart Indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are in shock. It sounds like a perfectly normal human reaction to having your heart broken. It would be unhelpful to say "get over it" because at the moment you can't. What you are going through is a sort of grieving process (like being in mourning).
When you start to feel yourself having these moments of 'numbness' try to occupy your time with something you enjoy and something that makes you feel happy.
Go out with your friends and talk about how you are feeling. Don't keep it bottled up, it will only make you feel worse.
2007-03-17 05:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lunar_Chick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're in shock. Unwilling to move forward but not unable.
So you want to get over him? I'm not understanding your circumstances maybe, but there shouldn't be a problem. You're using a failed relationship as an excuse not to move on.
There's no other logical reason for you to be sooo caught up on someone who clearly didn't care for you. I think you should fill the void by trying to be a friend to yourself.
Don't look to other people to fill the void within you. Once you are happy and comfortable by yourself you'll attract many decent men who *will* care for you.
2007-03-17 05:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel this is a natural response. Trust your self to know when to feel this pain, and how much of it to allow yourself to handle at one time. As time passes you will feel stronger and better able to cope with this loss. Those internal protection mechanisms that buffer us when we have stress are there for a reason. Talk to friends about it with whom you feel safe. Your will recover at just the right speed, and be happier than ever.
2007-03-17 05:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by siddoly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are finding it hard to feel something for him then you probably don't love him. And if he doesn't love you well then it all works out great. It was ony a short relationship you'll son get over it.
2007-03-17 05:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a survival instinct of some kind. Allow yourself to grieve and then move on. He obviously isn't the one.
I am so sorry you have to go through this, it's awful, i know.
2007-03-17 05:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over it, maybe at first you think that you will never get over the way your feeling but believe me it does get better. You'll look back one day and realise that he wasn't worth all the worrying and pain.
If your young enough, move on you got your whole life ahead of you...
2007-03-17 05:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by x SexySian x 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋